9 LOVE QUOTES TO GINGER OUR LOVE LIFE THIS YEAR

It’s a new year, and there would be no better way than to start the year than with love. When you have a happy relationship, you tend to have a happier life, and a happier life would be the best antidepressant you could wish for.
To prep ourselves for a better love life this year, I have some of the best love quotes from seasoned authors; ginger your love life with these:

1. “Loving someone can be hard at times. You risk a lot when you love – your heart and soul, at the least. Love is the most important and most rewarding investment you can make in another person”. — J.E.B. Spredemann 

2. “If you can’t get someone off your mind they are probably supposed to be there.” —Unknown

3. “Love is knowing that no matter what is done at the end of day, you won’t change your mind, it’s only wanting what’s best for that special person.” —Unknown

4. “It’s one thing to turn a friend into a lover, but it’s completely different to try to turn a lover into a friend.” —Uknown

5. “They say a good love is one that sits you down, gives you a drink of water, and pats you on top of the head. But I say a good love is one that casts you into the wind, sets you ablaze, makes you burn through the skies and ignite the night like a phoenix; the kind that cuts you loose like a wildfire and you can’t stop running simply because you keep on burning everything that you touch! I say that’s a good love; one that burns and flies, and you run with it!” —C. JoyBell C

6. “It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.” —John Joseph Powell

7. “Love isn’t about having sex, it’s about finding that special someone and loving every minute you’re with them, no matter what you’re doing.” —Anonymous

8. “When you touch a man’s heart, he will remember it forever.” —Dixie Waters
Finally, I would end with this special quote: “Even when it seems that there is no one else, always remember there’s one person who never ceased to love you – yourself. —Sanhita Baruah

WHAT’S LOVE TO YOU?

Dr James Dobson defines love as an expression of the deepest appreciation for another human being; it is awareness of his or her needs and longings- past, present and future. It is unselfish, giving and caring.
Love is one word that’s been misused these days for probably selfish reasons; it’s been abused, overused and has even been confused with lust that its meaning holds no weights anymore and its existence has even been doubted by countless.
What’s love to you? Is it finding perfection in an imperfect partner or rather nagging, mocking and complaining about an imperfect partner?
What’s love really? Is it being affectionate to a person like no other or is just having an illusion that you care about two, three, four and even more persons at the same time?
Do you find love in a partner for happiness or do you only derive happiness in just the material things you can gain?
How can we really define love? Love has been defined as a friendship caught on fire; a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce in the beginning, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love become as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable but how many can boast of such?
Jackson Brown Jr defines love as something the heart sees that is invisible to the eye. This means love can never be confused with lust even if people try to. What really is love? Can it be defined by public display of affection or in the feeling of the sweetness of a partner; as Jean de la Bruyere stated “The sweetest of all sounds is that of the voice of the woman we love.”
But how do we really define love? Is there a perfect line for it? A deep quote by Nicholas Sparks reads “Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day.”
What’s love to you?

5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO IMMEDIATELY AFTER HAVING SEX

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Sex is lovely, sex brings intimacy but sometimes we act in ways that kill this pleasurable act. Most people are guilty of killing the mood due to the actions after sex. I understand for some, it’s something they don’t do intentionally so I decided to write about this.
Below are 5 things you should never do immediately after having sex
1. QUICKLY WEAR YOUR CLOTHES: quickly wearing your clothes after sex doesn’t show intimacy, it kills what you just shared with your partner.
2. CHECKING YOUR PHONE: making a call sending messages or doing whatever with your phone isn’t the right thing to do immediately after sex. You pass the wrong message to your partner when you do this.
3. TURNING ON THE TV: watching soccer or a cartoon isn’t the right thing to do immediately after sharing a passionate moment with your partner.
4. HURRYING TO THE BATHROOM: yes I understand you need to have a shower after a hot and amazing sex but it shouldn’t be immediately after sex. You need to spend some time with your partner before you visit the bathroom. It’s even better when you have a shower together after sex.
5. FALLING ASLEEP: most people do this and it’s not the best thing to do after sex. Sleeping immediately after sex won’t give you the opportunity to cuddle and enjoy the moment you just shared with your partner.

Have an amazing sex life with your partner

MUST READ: THE TOP FIVE THINGS THAT KENYAN WOMEN LOOK FOR IN MEN!!! BUT NUMBER 2 IS ENOUGH & IT CAN STAND FOR ALL.

Kenyan ladies fantasize about dating a tall, dark and handsome man but that’s not all. Here are some of the things that attracts in guy. MUST READ

1. Clear, beautiful and healthy looking eyes

Eyes provide an insight on the level of health of the individual, and healthy eyes indicate a healthy mate. It was also surveyed as the most attractive feature according to various women’s magazines.

2. Being wealthy

Wealth indicates power, security, comfort and even excitement. This is very attractive to women who crave all these feelings.

3. Being intelligent

Intelligence, demonstrated by high grades, an impressive line of studies or career are very attractive.

4. Body posture

Within 1 second, just from how you stand, women will judge you as attractive or not. Good body posture indicates that you are a healthy mate and that is very attractive to women. Lean back.

5. Being touchy

Human touch is a powerful way to trigger feelings of attraction. Naturally touchy people have a lot more sex than people who refrain from human contact. This is important when you flirt with a girl. They love it.

MUst Read: 9 Things A Guy Can Do For A Girl That Are More Intimate Than S-3x

Whenever we speak of intimacy, the first thing that comes into people’s minds is s*x. I don’t know about you, but the last time I had intimate s*x was… hell, I can’t even remember.

S*x can be intimate, but more often than not it isn’t. Intimacy is closeness, and although we certainly get physically close during s*x, mentally we can be miles apart.

True intimacy relies on knowledge — on knowing people just as well, if not better, than they know themselves. It’s not difficult for men to become more intimate with their women.

Not as difficult as one might think… but you are going to have to make the effort. Here are a few things you’ll want to try:

1. Tell her she’s beautiful.

There is no shortage of men who are willing to compliment women on a daily basis. The difference between them and you, however, is that when you tell the woman you love that she’s beautiful, it isn’t with ulterior motives.

You don’t tell a thousand women whatever they want to hear just to sleep with them. You are telling the woman you love that, in that moment, she is the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen.

When a woman knows you find her so positively stunning — inside and out — she’ll never have to worry about you straying or your feelings faltering. Trust is the most intimate thing two people can share.

2. Write her a love letter.

There’s plenty that can be said without words, but every woman wants to hear how much you love her.

Give her a physical thing that she can go back and reference whenever she misses you or feels uncertain of your love, and she’ll feel much more secure — and happier.

You don’t have to be a good writer to write a good love letter. Just put into words — the best you can — why she means the world to you. Don’t type it; write it by hand so that when she looks at the words, she feels that it’s you who wrote them.

3. Take a vacation together.

One of the best ways to become more intimate with your lover, to get to know and understand her more deeply, is to take a long trip together. Not just a weekend — two weeks minimum.

Intimacy is all about getting close to the other, and there is no better way to understand a woman better than to throw yourselves into an irregular or uncommon situation.

People are very good at keeping up façades when they’re feeling comfortable, when they’re surrounded by familiar surroundings.

Take that individual and place her in the middle of the unknown, the inexperienced, and you get to see her at her most intimate and basic levels — the level at which she is forced to take in novel information and then use that information to make real time judgements and decisions.

4. Take care of her when she’s sick and allow her to take care of you when you’re sick.

If you want to become more intimate with your partner, then you are going to have to accept her, not only at her best, but also at her worst. I’m sorry ladies, but no woman — or man for that matter — looks good when she’s coughing up a lung.

When your woman is sick, she is — quite literally — at her most vulnerable. Think about the way you feel and act when you physically feel horrible. I’d bet my life that you aren’t the jolly, pleasant person you usually are.



That’s why letting her see you when you’re at your most vulnerable is also extremely intimate. You can see how far she’s willing to go for you, and how much of you you’re willing to show.

5. Sleep with her (without having s*x).

It’s easy to share a bed with a woman, whether you love her or not. The harder part is not making a move when the beautiful woman next to you says she isn’t ready or she isn’t in the mood.

Embracing a woman tenderly with no intention of taking it further means your feelings extend past the normal libidinal urges you suffer from. Cuddling a woman because you love her means needing to be close to her because it makes you happy.

This kind of happiness lasts more than a night — it lasts for a lifetime.

6. Stare into each other’s eyes for extended periods of time.

There is little in the world that makes us feel more uncomfortable than extended periods of eye contact. They say that the eyes are the windows to our souls — and I don’t think they, whomever they may be, are wrong.

Looking deep into your lover’s eyes most likely won’t show you her deepest inner secrets, but it will show you how comfortable the two of you are with each other.

The longer you’re able to stare, the more comfortable the two of you are. If you want to break down whatever barriers are left in your relationship, focus on more eye contact.

7. Meet the family.

A person is not just a person. She’s a combination of all the people she was influenced by growing up — primarily, her family. We base all our relationships in life on the relationships we have with our family members.

They are our oldest relationships, and because we formed them in our earliest years, they greatly shaped the way we perceive interpersonal interaction and relationships.

You can often learn more about your partner from the people she surrounded herself with than you can learn from her herself.

8. Spend the holidays together.

Human beings are creatures that focus much of their energy on holding on to traditions. Sadly, this makes progress incredibly difficult as no one especially enjoys change. However, there is much to be said about the importance of healthy traditions.

Keep in mind that the traditions she has now are more than likely the traditions that she’ll want to pass down to you and the children you have together.

It’s always a good idea to spend time with the people you want to get to know better in moments of tradition and celebration. It allows for an understanding that few other instances allow for.

9. Absolutely nothing.

The most intimate thing two people can ever do is absolutely nothing. Consider how difficult it is for most of us to do nothing at all on our own. We feel restless, uncomfortable, bored.

Now, imagine lying next to the love of your life and not doing anything other than sucking in the reality around you, breathing in the moment and each other. Intimacy doesn’t just involve action. It doesn’t just involve the attainment of information or better understanding.

The purest form of intimacy is simply living together — not living in the sense of sharing an apartment, but living in the sense of breathing and listening to your heart beat.

If you and the woman you love feel comfortable doing nothing at all together then you’ll likely feel comfortable with just about everything else.

Unconditional Love Starts with Loving Yourself

Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are formed.

The relationship you have with yourself is the central relationship in your life.

At the heart of all the elements that make up your life experience family, friends,

love relationships, work is you. This is why an audiobook about the rules of love

begins with a rule not about relationships with others, but rather about the relationship

you have with yourself.

The quality of the relationship between you and your self is paramount, for all

your other relationships are based on it. This relationship acts as a template from

which all the unions in your life are shaped, setting the quality, tone, and texture for

how you relate to others and how they relate to you. It establishes the working model

of how to give and receive love. The depth and quality of the link between you and your

self ultimately determines the success of your relationships with others. If an authentic

love relationship is what you desire, then the first natural step you must take is to learn to

love, honor, and cherish yourself as a truly precious and lovable being.

The place within you that generates self love is the exact same place that

attracts authentic love from others. If that source is clouded, your ability to attract a

relationship is eclipsed. In order to bring light to that inner source, you will need first to

leam how to give to yourself what you are seeking from another. Love creates more love,

and when your own inner love light shines, you open yourself to experience the beautiful

wonder of a deep and powerful connection with another being.

At its core, loving yourself simply means believing in your own essential

worthiness. It is nurturing a healthy sense of positive self regard and knowing in your

heart that you are a valuable link in the universal chain. Loving yourself also means

actively caring for every facet of yourself. It shows up in every action you take, from

putting on a sweater to protect yourself from a chill to leaving a job that does not

fulfill you. It means tuning in to your own wants and needs and honoring them the

exact same way you want your partner to attend to you.

Not everyone grows up to have an innate sense of high self esteem or

worthiness. In fact, most of us need to work at our experience of valuing ourselves to

some degree throughout our lifetimes. Each person feels insufficient in one or more

areas, whether physical, intellectual, financial, or in interpersonal dynamics, emotional

maturity, or spiritual growth. However, respecting, nurturing, honoring, and cherishing

yourself is your birthright and something you can learn. Loving yourself is the best way

to learn how to love another. Love is an action that requires certain understandings,

skills, and capacities. By practicing loving with yourself, you train yourself to advance to

the next level…learning how to love another.
Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are formed.

Only when you have successfully mastered taking care of your own needs can

you know how to extend that same attention to others. When you respect the validity

of your own thoughts and feelings, you can apply that consideration to others. When

you believe within yourself how valuable you are, you can then bestow authentic

Learning self love is the first step you must take in order to tap into the inner reaches of

your heart and soul and discover all that you are worth.

8 WAYS TO SEDUCE YOUR HUSBAND/PARTNER

Sometimes as women, we finally get our dream man and we just don’t know how to make him want more of us. Everything suddenly becomes boring when we get married to our dream man and it isn’t supposed to be so. Are there things we need to do daily to make our man want us daily? The answer is yes.
Below are 8 ways to make your man want you more
1. TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT NOW: this works like magic. Try whispering to his ear how badly you want him now. Tell him how good he is and how bad you want him inside you. Chances are you would get him running to the sheets soon to prove he is really good. LOL.
2. MAINTAIN PHYSICAL CONTACT: maintaining physical contact with him is another way to make your man want you. Walk around holding hands and hug him too. Try as much as possible to maintain physical contact. Touch releases a hormone called oxytocin, which is nicknamed “the love hormone.”
3. SEXTING: try sending him a text about how badly you want him. He would probably think of your body all day and I bet he would be eager to get home. He would be thinking of your body all day and this could lead to fantastic sex.
4. BE NAUGHTY: try to be a little naughty; men love it when their woman is a little naughty sometimes. Tell him all the things you want him to do to you and all the things you have always wanted him to do to you too. The chances of you having an amazing sex with him are definitely high.
5. ANSWER THE DOOR PARTIALLY NUDE: imagine he comes home and find you partially nude at the door waiting for him. Hehehe, you might just end up having an amazing sex the next minute. Nudity is seductive but being partially nude is better as it leaves more to the imagination. Ensure he is coming home alone as you would not want to open the door partially nude and find him standing at the door with his pals. LOL.
6. GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS AND STOP: I know most ladies have tried this and it really works like magic. You know what turns your man on. If he can’t resist you kissing him, how about you start kissing him and then stop suddenly. Make him go crazy and want you badly. You would definitely end up having a great sex.
7. HELP HIM RELAX: if he is tired, the chances of him ending up in bed with you are definitely low. Help him relax by making his favourite meal, a bubble bath together with him or a massage. The aim of what you are doing is trying to make him feel relaxed because when he is relaxed, he is more likely to respond to you sexually.
8. EYE CONTACT: you can use eye contact to seduce your man too. Try using eye contact with facial expressions to communicate to him how badly you want him.

Have a great time with your man

WHAT’S THE REAL MEASURE OF LOVE?

Love is one word that holds so much weight but has been underused, overused and bastardized all at the same time that people don’t know its real worth. When you see a car, you know the worth of that car; if you go to a furniture store, you would be given a catalogue with the prices of each advertised there; so how come we know the right value to place on almost everything but we come at a standstill when it comes to love?
The Webster defines love as a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person— this definition is fair enough but I think it goes just beyond this. What puzzles me is the way the word has been bastardized that the real measure of love is often being underrated. The gigolo uses the word love like he means it, the gold-digger uses the word with absolute confidence and assurance that you would never see, the man who just wants to get in a lady’s pants would most assuredly use that same word and even the lady who only wants a man for selfish reasons too uses love as a hiding place.
Many have said they don’t believe in love, they don’t believe it exists and they don’t think someone can just love another person (who isn’t family) for any genuine reason; they believe there is always an attachment that comes with love or that love comes at a price. You wouldn’t blame anyone for making such a bold statement because to that person the measure of love haven’t been felt and so they are unsure as to who and what to believe.
Johann Wolfgang had something to say about the real measure of love: “This is the true measure of love; when we believe that we alone can love, that no one could ever have loved so before us, and that no one will ever love in the same way after us.”
What has made so many fall astray to what the real measure of love really is, is when they are carried away with mere words rather than action; but still so many have been carried away with action as well, as people now easily fake their feelings and actions when they know that deep within them, they have nothing about love to offer.
The real measure of love comes in every smile, every kiss, every sacrifice, every word, thoughts and actions. The real measure of love isn’t self-centred, it isn’t there for selfish reasons and I believe if we can look beyond the artificial and stare deep into our souls, we can recognise the real measure of love just like the catalogue in a furniture store. With this, we would recognise the real measure of love just as the Goldsmith recognises the real worth of gold.
The real measure of love is found when we love without measure