7 IMPORTANT THINGS TO ALWAYS CHECK IF YOU WANT TO ASSESS YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Relationships can be compared to a car engine, you don’t wake up every morning and drive off to wherever you want to go to without checking so many important things in the engine else your car might just break down. Likewise your relationship, you don’t wake up every day assuming that your relationship is intact without assessing your relationship; you might wake up one day only to realise that your relationship is on the verge of breaking down.
Relationships don’t break down in the twinkle of an eye, it does so gradually but sometimes people keep a blind eye to those things which should be checked regularly in the relationship just like the car engine.
7 pointers for assessing your relationship
1. COMMUNICATION LEVEL
Communication is an integral part of a relationship; a successful relationship is marked with frequent communication while a relationship that’s on the verge of breaking or is having cracks is marked by a lower level of communication. How well do you and your partner communicate with each other?  Once communication begins to fade off then your relationship would begin to fade off as well, there are no two ways about this; so never let it get to this stage.
2. DESIRABILITY LEVEL
Notice how couples that are in love or in a relationship newly desire each other; desirability is the passion of the relationship. Many relationship experts would always advice couples to maintain the passion in a relationship; this is so because once the passion in that relationship begins to wane then the relationship would suffer as well. How high is the passion or desirability level in your relationship?
3. TAKE THE QUIZ
You can take a self-test to examine how feel about your relationship; if you’re honest about how you feel then you would have all the answers you need about your relationship. Ask yourself questions like: am I enjoying this relationship? Would I rather be alone than be with my partner? Am I proud of where the relationship is going? Would I still love to be in this relationship in a few years’ time? The answers to these questions would reveal a lot and tell you how exactly you feel about your relationship.
4. IS ANYTHING COMING BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR PARTNER?
Things come between couples in a relationship; some are external and some are internal; some are visible to the eyes while some aren’t. Family and friends can come between relationship partners; inward traits like ego, anger, selfishness and the lot can come between partners; even in marriages, kids can come between partners; sometimes it could also be that extra side chic or guy that could be coming between partners. Is anyone or anything coming between you and your partner?
5. SEX
Sex is always a definite pointer that reveals a lot about relationship cracks. Sometimes sex can feel empty with no passion, sometimes it could be just dry like something done out of necessity rather than of desire while sometimes the intimacy and passion level that comes with the sex could be passionate. It also doesn’t end with sex, even the attitude after sex means a lot; is there still that desire to be with each other or is it just one of those things? All these counts and those little details would reveal a lot as to how well the relationship is doing.
6. HONESTY
A relationship that’s on the right track is usually honest; the man is honest to the woman and likewise the woman is honest to the man. Once honesty seizes to exist in that relationship then it is a sign that so many things are going wrong behind the scenes. What’s the honesty level between you and your partner in that relationship?
7. SACRIFICES
A successful relationship is earmarked with sacrifices, couples are willing to give up things that they do that would harm the relationship, couples are ready to put in a lot to make sure the relationship remains successful. Once that will to sacrifice for each other is lost then that relationship would gradually begin to falter till it reaches a point where it can’t be fixed again.

While most relationships fail without both partners noticing on time is because just like the car engine they refuse to check everything that’s needed to make the relationship move smoothly. No relationship breaks down at once, it gives signs that something should be worked on or improved and failure to do that would ruin the relationship.

5 REASONS HE HASN’T INTRODUCED YOU AS HIS GIRLFRIEND

So you have been with this great guy for some weeks now and he has never introduced you to anyone as his girlfriend and you are probably wondering why. Just stop bordering and keep reading as I list 5 reasons why he probably has never called you his girlfriend
1. YOU ARE THE SIDE CHICK:
If he can’t let the world know you are his girlfriend then he probably has a girl the world knows he is dating. If he never calls you his girlfriend, the possibility of you being his side chick is definitely high.
2. HE DOESN’T LIKE YOU ENOUGH:
Guys can be very annoying sometimes and I just wonder why we do this. He probably wants you around because maybe he enjoys your company or has good sex with you but he just doesn’t love you enough to make the world know you are his girlfriend. He would do enough to make you happy but not enough to keep you satisfied.
3. HE IS SCARED OF COMMITMENT:
Some men dread commitment, it’s a no go area for them. It could be due to a past relationship that really hit them hard while others just don’t want to be man enough to be committed.
4. YOU BECAME HIS GIRLFRIEND BEFORE YOU WERE ACTUALLY HIS GIRLFRIEND:
Most girls commit these blunders when trying to get a man they love. They try becoming a man’s girlfriend even before they are actually his girlfriend. Let me explain myself. When you wash his clothes, cook for him and clean his apartment when he hasn’t even asked you out just because you like him and wish he does, he would act like he is dating you so those benefits won’t stop.
5. HE ISN’T PROUD OF YOU:
Some guys date a girl just so they won’t be single but they are not really proud to show her off to friends. They think maybe she isn’t up to their taste but the question I always ask is why date a girl if you think she isn’t up to your taste?

So ladies if you notice these signs in your relationship, it’s obvious you are with the wrong guy as nothing good would definitely come out of that relationship

4 MAJOR SECRETS WOMEN LOVE TO KEEP

Sometime ago, I brought you 4 major secrets men keep from women; discussing in detail, some of the things men would rather keep to themselves than share with their women. If you really read that article, then you know that men aren’t the only ones who like to hide things. Women also keep secrets, and the funny thing about theirs is that men aren’t their only victims. Lol (no offence). When women lie, they do it to everyone (men and women alike) because they just have trust issues. On this occasion, I’ll be sharing some of the most common ones with you. So sit back, relax, and check out the 4 major secrets women love to keep.
1. THEIR AGE
There’s a reason they say ‘a woman never reveals her age…’ it’s because they just don’t. A vast majority of women would rather lose a friendship than divulge their true age. I used to wonder what the big deal is until a close friend told me. She said the reason most women lie about their age is because of the ‘time factor’. You know, naturally, women age faster than men, so to keep the balance, and remain ‘relevant, they lie about their actual age by a deducting a few years. Also, most men tend to go for younger women for marriage. This makes a lot of women lie (especially those above 30) so they could get a partner.
2. HOW MANY MEN CAME BEFORE YOU
Women are also humans like men so they care about their reputation. No woman wants to be tagged ‘a whore’ so they’d rather lie about the number of men she’s dated especially considering the way the society views women who have had multiple sexual partners. Some women also do this because they are in love, and do not want to lose their man. In all, women keep this kind of secret to keep a healthy reputation.
3. HOW MUCH SHE EARNS
Most women are naturally dependent. No matter how much money they make or have, they just can’t seem to stop looking up to their man for more. They’ll even go as far as lying about how much they earn, just to collect more from the men in their lives. I’ve seen women who keep their jobs and businesses a secret from their man. That’s how serious it is. Lol.
4. HOW SHE REALLY FEELS ABOUT HER LOVE LIFE
When a woman is in love, she’d do anything to protect her man…even fake sexual pleasure and orgasm. Studies have shown that a vast majority of women do not reach orgasm during sexual intercourse, but most men do not know this, and that’s because a lot of women choose not to be honest about their true sexual feelings. Countless stories have also come out of how many women are increasingly dissatisfied with their sex lives, but when you ask them in bed, they pretend to be enjoying your skills. Can’t say I blame these women though, sometimes, they lie and fake these feelings just so they do not hurt their man’s ego (yeah…men have a very fragile ego) and so people don’t have a very twisted impression of them. The larger society tends to brand you negatively the moment you come clean about issues regarding sex. I’ve seen women branded ‘nymphomaniacs’ and the like, just because they are honest about their sexual feelings/fantasies.
So there you have it. Remember, while it may seem ‘cool’ to lie to your partner and keep secrets from them be warned that they are extremely unhealthy for a relationship. If you wanna be in a relationship with someone you claim to love, they deserve nothing but complete honesty from you.