IS THERE REALLY A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN S*X AND LOVEMAKING?

Hello people, welcome to another edition of Elcrema Sunday Love Special, a segment dedicated strictly to discussions and debates on various relationship issues. Today’s topic centres on an age long debate—sex and lovemaking; are they the same thing or is there really a difference between both.
Many would claim they are one and the same while many would refute that as they seem to two different things.
Drama and I (Shawn) would share our thoughts on this one.
Drama
Lol. Now, this is one tricky question, but honestly, I think it would depend on who’s judging. There are people who would tell you that there’s no difference between the two, and it’s all a question of semantics; their argument being that there’s usually some form of penetration involved in both scenarios while there are others who think there’s a little difference between them.
For me though, I like to think that there’s a difference between the two. Sex is the general name used to describe the act of copulation, but when two people are in love, they just don’t have sex; they put their heart and soul into it, so they make love. Anybody can have sex, but it takes love to make love. Lovemaking is deeper and more appreciated than sex for those who do it. Sex is more of a physical/mechanical act while love-making is more of a soulful act. When you make love, there’s usually a form of connection you feel to your partner. You’re totally lost in the moment. That is the difference between the two.
Shawn
Sex is like the general term that describes all forms of intercourse so in that generic language one could deem sex to be lovemaking and lovemaking to be sex.
However, when it comes to relationship, sex and lovemaking are thought by many to be two different things and I quite agree. Lovemaking is passionate, it entails love, it has a lot to do with feelings and the emotions of love—it is no ordinary sex but the sex that’s done when two people are in love, while mere sex couldn’t be said to have this same emotions.
Sex with a prostitute isn’t and would never feel the same when you have sex with someone you are in love with; that difference is what makes both of them different. With a prostitute, the motive and objective is different; the prostitute is only after her money while the man is merely interested in sexual satisfaction; their action has little or nothing to do with emotions, love and feelings. This can’t be said with two people who are passionate with each other because to them it’s more about passion and emotions.
I would say that the basic difference between both acts is just the different emotions that come with both actions.

Do you think they are same or are there differences between sex and lovemaking

ARE YOU READY TO GO FROM BOYFRIEND TO HUSBAND?

So you’ve been dating your girlfriend for a while, but you’re not sure if you’re ready to take things to the next level and ask her to marry you. But are you sure this is the right time? Are you sure if she’s the right one? Popping the question is never easy, even for a guy who is sure he wants to spend the rest of his life with the special lady in his life.

If you are even a little bit unsure about whether or not you want your girlfriend to be your wife, you need to ask yourself some basic questions about if you are ready to go from boyfriend to husband:

Can you imagine your future together?

Here’s a little thought experiment to do. Where are you and your girlfriend a year from now? How about in five years? Can you imagine yourself with her a decade from now? Of course there’s no way to tell what is going to happen in the future, but the fact that you can envision years down the line with this person means that she is the kind of person you can spend that much time with.

Can you live with what you don’t like about her?

Look, let’s be realistic: no matter who you decide to marry, there are things that she is going to do that are going to bother you. They may make you crazy now, but you may someday learn to ignore them, forget about them, or even learn to enjoy them. But if there is something she does that you can’t stand, that you have no wish to ever be a part of, this may be a sign that the two of you shouldn’t make a lifelong commitment to each other. On some level, you need to know what your own tolerance level is like.

Are you ready to settle down?

If you have been with your girlfriend for any significant amount of time you should be able to tell if you are ready to settle down or not. Do you still have the urge to sleep with other people or run off to party with your boys whenever they call you up in the middle of the night to go hang out? If you want to be with other people more than with your potential wife you probably aren’t ready to make a big life change yet.

If distractions like other women and partying don’t seem better than being with your girlfriend, you are probably ready to settle down with her.

Do you already think of each other as a family?

Becoming husband and wife means that the two of you are going to be part of each others families, but it also means that the two of you are also going to become a family of your own. Whether you’ll have the stereotypical bad relationship with your in-laws or if you all get along great, these relationships are going to change your life. A family is created by sharing. If you know that your home is her home and her home is yours, you are already part of the same family

HOW TO ESCAPE THE FRIEND ZONE WITH A GIRLFRIEND

There is a myth that men and women can be friends, but sometimes being friends is exactly what you don’t want. It’s nice to have a few friends who are girls, but what should you do if your feelings suddenly change? What should a guy do when he wants his friend to be his girlfriend? It’s a tricky situation, but JDNEWS24.BLOG can help you escape the friend zone.

Know What You’re Getting Into is going to transform you from a platonic friend into a romantic partner. In a lot of ways trying to become more than friends is going to affect your friendship, so it’s important to be sure that this is exactly what you want. There’s always a risk that trying to turn a friendship into a romance will result in losing your friend. This is a total fail state as you wind up without a girlfriend and without your pal. That is why it’s so important to be sure you really want to turn this friend into a girlfriend. Now start seeing if she wants you to be her boyfriend…

You Can Start By Acting the Part and see how she reacts. Start calling her more often, even if it’s just to say hi. You’re going to want to be more of a presence in her life than you were before. Also, try to make plans to hang out more often. Ask her to do more favors for you, to see how willing she is to devote her time to you. If this all goes well, it means you’re moving in the right direction.

Eye Contact is a direct way of making a connection with a person. The more easily you meet and maintain eye contact with her, the more she will feel like you are communicating to her about something more intimate than just being friends.

Touching is a big part of decreasing the space between the two of you. This may be your best way to gauge how she is feeling about your advances. If she responds negatively to any increased intimacy you should probably take it as a clear message that she is not interested in you as a lover. That’s okay. But if she responds well–if she punches you back when you are horsing around, if she reaches back to you when you put your arm around her–you are probably ready to take the next step.

Telling Her How You Feel may seem like the obvious thing to do from the very beginning–and really it may be what your heart is telling you to do–but it’s a better idea for you wait on doing this. This step is last on this list because you should only proceed with telling her how you feel if you think she could be reciprocal, for example, if she responds well to all of the other things on this list. If you rush right into this step, you risk freaking her out and not only closing the door on any romantic possibilities, but making her feel betrayed in your friendship. This step is last because you should already have tested how receptive she is to the idea before you actually put it out there. Once you do all of the above first, and only then, should you open up to her about how you feel.

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