7 Essential Things That Men Find Attractive About A Woman

We as men, love women, it’s in our blood. There are a lot of things that we find appealing in women but, it’s only natural that there are some things about women that we find even more attractive. Because men are simple creatures, certain things appeal to all of us, similar to how certain things about us men, appeal to you.

For example, no women on this earth will say that chivalry isn’t attractive. So, if you want to have that extra edge in front of other ladies, pay close attention to this article. These are simple things and it’s really easy to apply them in your everyday life. By knowing what a man finds attractive in a woman it will become easy for you to attract any man you like. Just make sure you don’t let the new attention go into your head.

You see, men are very visual and simple creatures, for us, attraction and infatuation happens very quickly, we don’t need to know a lot about you in order to become attracted. Basically, it’s all down to your first impression.  It’s also true that in time, this changes and our appreciation for you will be at a much deeper level but for starters here are the things that catch our eyes:

1.       A cheerful woman

Nothing turns a man off more than a depressed and mean attitude. If you want to get that extra attention make sure you look cheerful because a flirty giggle and a cheerful attitude can quickly melt any man’s heart.

I agree that it’s not always easy to have such an attitude but if you can think about the happier side of life, all the time, this will happen naturally. It’s the same for you isn’t it? Would you date a guy that hates his life and is genuinely miserable? Probably not, so think about this next time you go out.

2.       A well dressed, good looking woman

Yes, we men are attracted by looks, you knew it, I said it and it’s the truth. But do not worry because this doesn’t mean you have to undergo plastic surgery…

Dressing well and looking good are things that you can immediately change. I’m not going to give any lessons on fashion as I’m probably not the right person to do so however, caring about what you put on and the way you apply some make-up can be detrimental when it comes to attracting men.

Just focus on dressing well and feeling good about yourself. If you feel good about how you look then the people around you will feel the same way. You don’t have to wear flashy color clothes or anything like that, just be confident, have well fitted clothes and use a little bit of perfume and you’ll be attracting some males in no time.

3.       A flirty woman

There’s nothing like a woman that can flirt back. We know that in order to attract a woman we have to flirt. Sadly, often times they don’t flirt back but…when they do…it’s absolutely amazing. Flirting back puts you in a very strong WOMANLY position, not only are getting in control but also you are acting like a woman. A womanly woman is absolutely infatuating for any man on this planet.

What do you need to do? Simple things like curling your lips or biting them slightly, raising your eyebrows when you make a smart remark, jiggling at our jokes, being genuinely interested in what we say – these sort of things. If you can’t yet master this subtle art, try looking at yourself in the mirror and exercise there. It may seem awkward at first but it will help you get the hand of things fairly quickly.

4.       Show us some skin

Now this isn’t a guide on how to be slutty however, that little bit of extra skin turns our heads in an instant. Too much skin is a cry for attention and men know it but if you play it subtle – It will work a lot better.

A shirt or a tee that ends just right around where your jeans start or a perfectly fitting top with a wider neck that shows a bit but yet needs a bit of craning to get a peep is just the perfect combination. We love those nearly-there peeks and it drives us crazy.

5.       A seductive voice

Again, this isn’t about changing your voice but using it correctly. There are little things in life that make the hair on a man’s back raise with excitement and a woman’s voice is one of them. Mastering the art of the seductive voice takes time so don’t focus on it too much.

Men are turned off by high pitched glass shattering squeals that most women use when they’re surprised or ecstatic with joy. A low and soft voice is obviously more attractive. Lucky for you, it’s actually not that hard to speak in a low, softer tone without seeming like you’re trying too hard. Exercise your new found talent on the phone but don’t blame me if the guy on the other line starts to get flirty.

6.       A Damsel In Distress

Maybe the term damsel in distress is too much for this but you get the idea, a woman in need. This may actually be a man’s dream, to help out a woman in need…as it gives them the perfect opportunity to be A MAN in front of you.

Men love to feel wanted and then appreciated by women. You might think that men hate doing errands and stuff like that but we hate it only when we’re in a long term relationship. At the beginning, we are at your disposal so use us in any way you want. So, if you know a single guy, go up to him with a smile on your face and ask him to help you with something, chances are he’ll jump to your help immediately.

We love women that ask for our help, it just makes us feel manlier and it gives us the opportunity to have a conversation with you. And when you thank us with a flirty smile, there’s a good chance we’ll do anything to get your number

 7.       A woman who acknowledges a man’s stare

This is the first step in seduction and probably the most important. You need to have the ability to acknowledge our stares. Sure, some guys have a lot of guts and approach you instantly but most guys don’t have this type of attitude and you need to give them at least the slightest reason to react.

Many guys will try to get your attention by giving a manly stare. React to this by looking back at them. You don’t even have to smile (sure if you do, you give them even more reasons to approach you) but even just acknowledging their look is enough. You don’t need to do this with every guy that looks at you, but if he seems decent enough, do it.

Also, you don’t need to marry him or have his babies but this will give you the chance meet a guy, you can decide later if he’s your type or not …if no guy comes to you in any given night, how will you ever find a guy this way? This simple acknowledgement of a stare is the most important thing you can do if you want to get a guy to notice you and come in for the approach.

In conclusion, now that you have this knowledge make sure you use it wisely. There are a lot of women out there that just scream for attention, don’t be that woman because we men, hate her. Attract us but show us that you’re different when we approach you, this is how long term relationships are built.

11 Marriage Problems And How To Resolve Them

11 Marriage Problems And How To Resolve Them

Marriage Problems

If someone ever comes to you and says “I’ve never had an argument with my husband” or “we never fight”, they are lying to you! Every marriage has its fair share of issues, whether you want to call them conflicts, confusions or problems. What is more important is to get yourself out of these conflicting areas and ensure that they are kept at the bay. Have a quick look at some of the common problems that plague every marriage on the planet.
1. Dishonesty

If there was one thing that came above anything else while ruining a marriage, this would be it – dishonesty. Many a times, you let out ‘little lies’ and then call them ‘white lies’ for your own convenience. If you are confident of yourself and not faking anything in your marriage, there should be no reason for even the smallest of lies. Talk about things that are not too appropriate to be said directly, but do not lie! Be honest about yourself, your thoughts, ideas, expectations, and your love. Dishonesty may save you from a small argument today, but can come back and haunt you years later. You will break his trust and his heart, if he ever finds out that you have been dishonest. There is nothing more painful than lack of trust in a marriage.
2. Unrealistic expectations

Whenever you find yourself struggling to come in terms with ‘unfair’ situations in your marriage, sit back, take a deep breath and think to yourself, “What do I really expect? Is this what I deserve?” Most women often expect too much, and in some cases, too less. It is very tough to keep a balance between more and less, but a moment of thought can usually help you to come to terms with your expectations. Always remember, you should expect no less or no more than what you deserve.
3. Lack of sexual compatibility

Sexual relations with your partner play a very important role in your marriage. Lack of sex can lead to depression, arguments, loss of excitement and, in worst cases, even infidelity. Find time from your busy routine for each other’s physical needs. Be adventurous, try new things inside the bedroom, and spice things up!
4. Lack of respect

It is very important that you treat your partner with respect. There is no single thing that you can say or do to show respect. It just means backing him up no matter what. It can be something as small as taking his side in an argument on the dinner table with friends, or agreeing with his views while having a challenging conversation with the family. You must expect the same. Loss of respect is a significant blow to the balance of a relationship. Give respect, get respect.
5. Practice what you preach

It’s one thing putting your thoughts, ideas and expectations forward; it’s another thing to step up and practice what you preach. If you have certain demands or expectations from your partner, be ready to put them to practice in your own life. It can be as simple as being aware of your own punctuality levels before asking him to ‘always be on time’. You will gain respect from your partner if you follow what you say.
6. Taking each other for granted

It is one of the easiest traps that many couples fall into. Think of the moment when you were dating your partner and your only dream in life was to marry him and be with him forever. Well, guess what, your dream has come true! Appreciate the fact that what you only dreamt of earlier is what you have now. Think of every moment spent with him as a gift and cherish every romantic look that he gives you. Never take your partner and his love for granted.

VACANCIES AT BOT-ADMINISTRATIVE OFFICER III (ADMINISTRATIVE AND GENERAL SERVICES) - 2 POSTS

The Bank of Tanzania, an equal opportunity employer and Tanzania’s central bank, is 

looking for suitably qualified young Tanzanian citizens of high personal integrity to fill 

the following vacant positions at the Head Office and at its Branches in Mwanza, 

Mbeya, Zanzibar and Dodoma.

Position: Administrative Officer III (Administrative and General Services) - 2 Posts

Reports to: Head of Division

Contract type: Contract for unspecified period of time

Location: Head Office, Dar es Salaam

Job Purpose:

To undertake a wide range of analytical, transactional and facilitative responsibilities 

including travel support, general events management, BoT canteen operations and other 

catering services and advise the management on provision of various office support and 

administrative services.

Primary Duties and Responsibilities: 

a) Planning and scheduling booking for staff and official visitors and managing travel arrangements;

b) Overseeing and monitoring BoT staff canteen Services;

c) Monitoring service providers and ensuring services are provided in accordance with standards approved in the service contract;

d) Supervising kitchen attendants on the daily delivery of services to staff and in  business meetings; 

e) Originating purchase requisition and purchase orders and obtaining required approvals

f) Processing payments for catering services, travel tickets and hotel services rendered to the Bank;

g) Compiling monthly utility bills for processing payments;

h) Preparing periodic performance status reports on the performance of service 

providers;

i) Preparing various correspondences for management’s decision and action; 

j) Assisting in the preparation of corporate budget relating to administrative/support services;

k) Performing other related duties as may be assigned by supervisor.

Education/Professional Qualifications Required:

a) Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration, Public Administration, Commerce or its equivalent; 

b) Ability to communicate effectively in English and Kiswahili;

c) High level of integrity, motivation and hardworking;

d) Strong interpersonal relations and ability to work effectively in teams;

e) Results-oriented

HOW TO APPLY:
Interested applicants must submit the following for consideration of the applications:
a) Application letter and Curriculum Vitae (CV);
b) Certified copies of academic certificates, birth certificate and other relevant certificates;
c) Names and addresses of two reputable referees;
d) Applicant’s reliable contact address, email address and telephone numbers;
e) Applicants with academic certificates from foreign schools/ universities must submit proof of accreditation of issuing institutions;
f) Applicants who qualify for more than one post should choose and apply for one post only. Applicants who shall apply for more than one post will not be short listed.
g) Overqualified applicants will not be considered.

Application should be addressed to:

Deputy Governor (AIC),

Bank of Tanzania, 

2 Mirambo Street,

11884 DAR ES SALAAM12

Deadline: 

Applications should reach the Deputy Governor’s Office on or before 16.00 pm on 18th

November, 2014.

Only short-listed applicants will be contacted

MESSENGER III NEEDED (BOT-DODOMA BRANCH) – 1 POST

Position: Messenger III (Dodoma Branch) – 1 Post
Reports to: Head of Division
Terms of Contract: Contract for an Unspecified Period of Time
Location: Dodoma Branch

Job Purpose:
To provide office support services including running errands within and outside the
office, photocopying, binding, moving documents /files/office supplies and
providing related services.

Primary Duties and Responsibilities:
a) Moving documents and office supplies from one location to another within the Bank;
b) Collecting letters and parcels from postal office and other courier agencies and delivering them to intended recipients within the Bank;
c) Delivering letters and parcels to the postal office and other courier agencies for postage and delivering them to the intended addresses;
d) Receiving newspapers and magazines and distributing them to the relevant offices and staff in the Bank;
e) Assisting in basic records keeping, photocopying and binding of documents;
f) Performing other related duties as may be assigned by Supervisor;

HOW TO APPLY:
Interested applicants must submit the following for consideration of the applications:
a) Application letter and Curriculum Vitae (CV);
b) Certified copies of academic certificates, birth certificate and other relevant certificates;
c) Names and addresses of two reputable referees;
d) Applicant’s reliable contact address, email address and telephone numbers;
e) Applicants with academic certificates from foreign schools/ universities must submit proof of accreditation of issuing institutions;
f) Applicants who qualify for more than one post should choose and apply for one post only. Applicants who shall apply for more than one post will not be short listed.
g) Overqualified applicants will not be considered.

Application should be addressed to:

Deputy Governor (AIC),

Bank of Tanzania, 

2 Mirambo Street,

11884 DAR ES SALAAM12

Deadline: 

Applications should reach the Deputy Governor’s Office on or before 16.00 pm on 18th November, 2014.

Only short-listed applicants will be contacted

VACANCY: POWER QUALITY TECHNICIAN – 1 POST

POSITION OBJECTIVE

To manage Power Quality Monitoring system and analyzing quality of power supply including reporting for findings.

PRINCIPLE ACCOUNTABILITIES

• Maintain the existing power quality monitoring schemes
• Preparation of reports detailing power quality conditions in the grid network and ensure PQ data keeping.

ACADEMIC QUALIFICATION AND EXPERIENCE

• Ordinary Technician Diploma/Full Technician Certificate in Electrical Engineering from a recognized Technical Institution.
• At least 1 year experience in relevant field

REMUNERATION

An attractive compensation package based on performance and commensurate with the responsibility will apply to the successful candidates. All positions terms of employment are performance based fixed contract.

HOW TO APPLY

Interested Tanzanian nationals should apply by sending a brief application letter, clearly stating why you should be considered for the position and how you will add value. With the letter, concise curriculum vitae should be enclosed showing briefly your achievements /accomplishments for you to be considered for the position.

Applications should reach the undersigned not later than 14 days after initial appearance of this advert;

First Appearance: 11^th November 2014

Applications Deadline: 25^th November, 2014

Phone calls, walk in soliciting for these positions will automatically lead to disqualifications. Only shortlisted candidates will be contacted for interview.

Applications should be addressed to;

SENIOR MANAGER HUMAN RESOURCES,

TANESCO LTD UMEME PARK,

UBUNGO P. O. BOX 9024

DAR ES SALAAM

This Will Make Your Ex Go Crazy For You..{.Must Read }

I am going to show you a rock solid technique you can use right away and get instant results. This technique is so effective that your ex will start missing you and will desperately desire you again right away! Ready to get started?

Do you know that humans normally have a tendency to take things for granted? We don’t really value the air we breathe but we only understand how important it is when we run out of it. So you see similarly your ex doesn’t really value you at the moment because by chasing them around you have already shown them that you need them. But you see, the pain of loss is far greater than the pleasure of gain. Humans would do anything to save what they already have instead of gaining something new. I don’t why it is this way but this is the way human psychology functions.

Therefore, what you are going to do now is create a sense of loss in your ex’s mind where he/she would feel constant emptiness & a sense of anxiety. Pretty much like what you are going through right now. Okay here is what I want you to do. I want you to get in touch with your ex via SMS or E-mail. Why SMS or E-mail? Well, for the simple reason that your ex will always attend to your SMS or E-mail even when they have been trying to avoid you.

This is the message you must write in the text:

“I wanted to tell you that you were right about the breakup…I guess we do need space. Amazingly something wonderful happened recently…I guess when things happen they happen for a reason…You know what?”

Now this might sound incomplete with the final “You know what?” line, but that is the big trick here, leaving it incomplete will raise your ex’s level of curiosity and he/she will get highly eager to know the rest of the message. Don’t be too surprised if your ex calls you right away. This is where you need to be very careful. You should not return or attend their call right away, it is very important that you must follow through with my advice in my manual “Pull your ex back”.

Now let me tell you why this would work. By sending this message, you are doing everything that would persuade them to desire you once again. You are indirectly telling them “You don’t need them anymore”, this would seriously bother them as you have just told them that they don’t have you anymore, which would create massive feeling of loss within them. This will make them want you more than ever before.

You are telling them that you have already moved on and they will think how could you be over it so fast all of a sudden?

You are telling them that the breakup didn’t bother you that much. The fact that it didn’t bother you that much will bother them. They will find the fact that you got over them so fast hard to swallow.

By telling them that something wonderful recently happened in your life they would fear that maybe you already found someone else. This will trigger their fear of loss to unbearable levels, and at the same time the fear that you have found someone else will emotionally push them to know more and more.

The next step is very important, read carefully.

Now you will see magic unfold right in front of your eyes. I want you to listen very closely here. The guy/girl who was trying to avoid you all this time will literally be begging to have your attention after this point on. After you have sent the above mentioned message, your ex will probably call you or send you a message to know the rest. In this case tell them that you have something important to say and would like to get on the phone, to which your ex cannot really refuse since he/she is already jumping up and down with curiosity to know the rest of the message.

Once you are on the phone with them, make small conversation and then tell them that you have something really important you would like them to know, and then hesitate, say:

“Ummm! Well! I don’t know how to say this…But…I guess I shouldn’t tell you…But…” And then go quiet.

At this your ex would probably force you, but hesitate a bit more and then say:

“Sorry…I don’t think I should tell you…I gotta go!

And then hang up! That’s it, no more and no less! Don’t drag it, keep it short and hang up. Now do you know what you have done? Well, surprise surprise! Before your ex was just curious but now he/she would be burning with a compelling desire to know what you really wanted to tell them. They would find it hard to relax and get over the fact that you had something to say but never said it. And why would this work? Well, humans have a tendency to desire what they can’t have, and that desire turns into a burning obsession with time.

There is another great saying which goes: “Keep them hungry and they will keep coming back”.

Therefore now you have made your ex extremely hungry and he/she will keep coming back for more until you satisfy their hunger.

I am sure you’re really excited by now, but wait, let me strongly warn you here. This trick will work surprisingly well for you, BUT, doing this does not mean things will be smooth from this point on.

5 Dating Tips for Men to Stop Looking Desperate

The worst thing about being single is when you try to talk to women and only get rejected. Every man knows it’s hard to strike out all the time. After a while these blows to your confidence can lead to you setting yourself up for failure. Here are five things that men can do to make sure they don’t look so desperate whilst dating:

1. Don’t talk about it. Your life stinks right now, it’s true. But if that is the only thing you talk about no one is going to want to spend any time with you. Sad sacks with sob stories about being single and unlucky in love are not what women are looking for. If your primary approach to women is to reveal how horrible you feel about your love life, there is no way she is going to find you attractive. You’ll be pitied, sure, and maybe even get a hug, but no one is going to fall in love with you that way.

2. Flirting does not equal a relationship. You might think that talking to a woman for the first time means you need to be as open and sharing as if you were her long-term boyfriend. This is the 100% wrong thing to do. You are most likely going to drive her away with telling her more than she needs or wants to know about you. Flirting is a game, not a job interview. It should make her want to know you more, not less.

3. Don’t lie. You are who you are, and ultimately you aren’t going to fool her by telling her you’re someone else. Don’t feel like you need to lie to impress her. If she likes something you’re not a fan of, don’t tell her it’s your favorite too. Instead of lying, steer the conversation towards something you do like.

4. You don’t need a girlfriend right now. Half of the desperation you are feeling is made up of feeling like you are not meeting your expectations. That may be true, but the problem may be your expectations themselves. Try to realign your goals with women so that you’re not so focused on what you don’t have, but on the woman who is in front of you right now. The rest will come when you stop stressing about what will happen next.

5. Practice! Just like any performer, you need to work on your skills. You may think it’s funny, but try talking in front of a mirror. You’ll be surprised how your best lines and what you look like when you say looks to women when you have to look at yourself in the mirror. You can even try to talk to women with the sole intention of having it count as practice. Who knows, it may turn into something more real.

If you are feeling like you could use some guidance with how to effectively approach women, you should definitely check out ‘The Tao of Badass‘. This ebook and international bestseller is considered the “bible” of how to attract women and has helped thousands of previously shy men find love.

10 Signs To Know An Immature Guy [Must Read]

So many reasons have been adduced for why romantic relationships between a guy and a girl don't end up in marriage these days. One of them is Incompatibility!

For this reason, here is a list of tips on how you could get to know if a guy or that guy you are in a relationship with is immature:

1. You’re his first real relationship: He had a girlfriend or two in high school, but has not dated since. If you’re his first girlfriend in the “real world” you’re probably going to have to teach him a few basics. The only thing he has to compare this relationship to are the hormone and puberty induced ones he had when he was seventeen. In his head, when things get rough you’re going to act like his psychotic high school girlfriend, and he’s going to treat you as such. Bottom line: if you’re his first real girlfriend, you’re going to have to teach him a lot, and most of that will be the difference between girls and women.

2. He doesn’t know how to communicate: Communication is key to any relationship. There are going to be confrontations, fights, and near-breakups, but how these are handled are what determines if the couple is going to make it or not. If your boy/man-child isn’t willing to listen to you, or he readily dismisses your feelings, he’s not mature enough to be with you in the long run.

3. He loves his pride more than the relationship: There is a certain amount of give and take in relationships. If your man loves being right more than he loves you, he’s no man at all—he’s just a stubborn boy. Everyone has to swallow their pride at some point, and boys aren’t willing to do this yet.

4. He doesn’t own his flaws: This one is about placing blame, and when something happens in a relationship it’s hardly ever just one person’s fault. If you’re willing to accept what you did wrong, and he isn’t, he essentially thinks he’s always right. Not only is that immature, it’s egotistical.

5. He doesn’t want to be depended on: When poo hits the fan, he’s nowhere to be seen. You might get some sympathy from him, but he puts minimal effort into being the person you can rely on. This is because immature boys retreat when things are too difficult for them. Simply put: men are strong, boys are weak.

6. You’re his girlfriend when it’s convenient for him: You had plans for a nice weekend together? Too bad something else came up and he bailed on you. Sometimes, nothing at all comes up, but he just can’t be bothered and would rather sleep in that day. Men are committed to a relationship and put you before themselves at least some of the time. Boys do whatever they want despite you.

7. He gets lazy: He stopped putting in effort months ago. You no longer get the cute texts you use to screen-shot. You have to fish for compliments because he doesn’t offer them up anymore. And “just-because” phone calls are so few and far-between you begin to doubt their existence all together.

8. He’s a hypocrite: Remember when he got mad at you because you texted him “K” that one time? Now he does it when he’s upset just to spite you. All those things you swore never to do again, and he can’t see the irony in the doing them exactly the same way.

9. He has no ambition: He’s unhappy with his present condition but won’t make any steps to fix it. I don’t think every man needs to know what he wants to be in life, but a lack of motivation in his personal life will definitely transfer over to your relationship.

10. Instead of breaking up with you, he’ll be a jerk until you break up with him: This is something only a spineless boy does. When the relationship reaches its expiration date, instead of being honest about it with you, he’d rather hang in there until you leave him. Thus, he doesn’t have to be the bad guy, and you’re the one stuck doing his dirty work.

There’s a reason girls tend to date older guys: they’re hoping to find someone who has grown out of these tendencies.

VACANCY: PRINCIPAL ESTATE DEVELOPMENT ENGINEER – 1 POST

REPORTING TO: MANAGER ESTATE

REF. No. 01

POSITION OBJECTIVE

To be in charge of the Estate Development Section undertaking all types of building constructions and civil works from inception, designing, construction, commissioning up to project close out.

PRINCIPAL ACCOUNTABILITIES:

To prepare feasibility studies and designs, implementation of new construction projects of buildings and civil engineering infrastructure for the Company.

To prepare specifications, preambles, Bills of Quantities, and drawings and submitting to Procurement Management Unit (PMU) to form part of tendering documents.

To be responsible for the supervision and monitoring of civil and building projects implemented by the division through Consultants and Contractors, preparation of regular project performance/accomplishment reports as well as supervision of subordinates.

To check/evaluate certificates of payments of Consultants and Contractors for certification by Manager Estates before submission of the same to the Directorate of Finance to effect payments.

To ensure that “As built in” drawings are correctly prepared by Consultants and Contractors and are kept in safe custody for future references by the Company.

ACADEMIC QUALIFICATIONS AND EXPERIENCE:

A good bachelor degree in Civil Engineering or equivalent from recognized higher learning Institutions

Possess sufficient Computer skills in AutoCAD 2D drafting, Pro con excel spreadsheet for contemporary reinforced concrete design and Master Series Structural design

Masters/Postgraduate degree in Engineering Management (Project Management or Construction Management) will be an added advantage

Must be registered as a Professional Engineer (ERB)

At least 2-3 years’ experience in the relevant field

REMUNERATION

An attractive compensation package based on performance and commensurate with the responsibility will apply to the successful candidates. All positions terms of employment are performance based fixed contract.

HOW TO APPLY

Interested Tanzanian nationals should apply by sending a brief application letter, clearly stating why you should be considered for the position and how you will add value. With the letter, concise curriculum vitae should be enclosed showing briefly your achievements /accomplishments for you to be considered for the position.

Applications should reach the undersigned not later than 14 days after initial appearance of this advert;

First Appearance: 11th November 2014

Applications Deadline: 25th November, 2014

Phone calls, walk in soliciting for these positions will automatically lead to disqualifications. Only shortlisted candidates will be contacted for interview.

Applications should be addressed to;

SENIOR MANAGER HUMAN RESOURCES,

TANESCO LTD UMEME PARK,

UBUNGO P. O. BOX 9024

DAR ES SALAAM

SENIOR ENGINEER NEEDED– SCADA/EMS HARDWARE – 1 POST

REPORTING TO: PRINCIPAL ENGINEER SCADA/EMS

REF. No. 05

POSITION OBJECTIVE

To provide SCADA/EMS System Hardware technical support and maintenance for SCADA/EMS System.

PRINCIPAL ACCOUNTABILITIES

•           To ensure regular preventive maintenance and repair is being carried out as per maintenance schedules for SCADA/EMS System and associated systems/ equipment

•           To actively participated in SCADA/EMS System expansion and upgrading works following extension and upgrades of the grid system and SCADA/EMS System.

•           Ensure SCADA/EMS Data transmission is as per requirement and Interfacing of stations and equipment are in order.

•           To prepare daily, weekly, monthly, Quarterly and annual reports showing the status of all systems.

ACADEMIC QUALIFICATION AND EXPERIENCE

•           Holder of BSc. In Electrical Engineering/Telecommunication Engineering/Computer System & Information Technology Engineering Or equivalent from recognized University/College

•           Must be registered as Professional Engineer by Engineers Registration Board (ERB) of Tanzania and must possess Engineering Practicing License.

•           1 – 2 years’ experience

REMUNERATION

An attractive compensation package based on performance and commensurate with the responsibility will apply to the successful candidates. All positions terms of employment are performance based fixed contract.

HOW TO APPLY

Interested Tanzanian nationals should apply by sending a brief application letter, clearly stating why you should be considered for the position and how you will add value. With the letter, concise curriculum vitae should be enclosed showing briefly your achievements /accomplishments for you to be considered for the position.

Applications should reach the undersigned not later than 14 days after initial appearance of this advert;

First Appearance: 11th November 2014

Applications Deadline: 25th November, 2014

Phone calls, walk in soliciting for these positions will automatically lead to disqualifications. Only shortlisted candidates will be contacted for interview.

Applications should be addressed to;

SENIOR MANAGER HUMAN RESOURCES,

TANESCO LTD UMEME PARK,

UBUNGO P. O. BOX 9024

DAR ES SALAAM

It’s Normal to Hate Your Husband After You Have a Baby, Right?

 

I adjust the water in the shower, the hot-as-I-can-stand-it spray blasting like little pebbles on my back, but the sound does nothing to drown them out.
Back and forth I hear them outside of the bathroom door, the heavy tread of my husband’s footsteps that I would know anywhere and the shrill cry of the angry newborn in his arms.
I lean my head against the shower wall, alternating waves of rage and total defeat rushing over me. He isn’t doing it on purpose, I tell myself. He’s not deliberately walking in the hallway right outside the bathroom to ruin the only ten minutes of the day you get to yourself by letting you hear the baby’s screams so you will hurry the heck up…

But it sure feels like it.
My husband is about as good as they come in the world of super dads. He thinks nothing of strapping a baby to his chest, cooking dinner, or making a trip to the grocery store with kids in tow. Nor, I can assure you, would he ever describe himself as “babysitting” his own children, but it still doesn’t stop the strange phenomenon that happens to me as a mother:

Giving birth makes me hate him.
It’s completely irrational and truly unfounded, but it’s the plain and ugly truth of what I think is pretty normal in newbornland. Why do I hate my husband after we bring a miraculous life into the world together as a testament of our everlasting love?
It’s simply really.
I hate my husband because no matter how much we achieve in the world of feminism, how many glass ceilings we break through, or how often well-meaning men use the phrase, “we’re pregnant!”, there is no getting around the fact that to bring a life together into the world, I am the one that has to endure the bone-shattering pain of labor and birth and all the fun of surviving the postpartum phase.
I hate my husband because no matter how much he supports me breastfeeding or marvels at our children’s weight gain each month, I am the one who has to endure the bleeding nipples, endless rounds of mastitis, and that special brand of pressure that is known to nursing mothers. Am I nursing long enough, too long, am I exposed enough, was I gone too long, is the baby gassy because I drank too much coffee!?

I hate my husband because no matter how much he tells me I’m beautiful or is adamant that my jelly belly is simply “stretched-out skin” (good one, honey), he will never understand how much of my self-identity and worth is tied into this now unrecognizable body.




The good news is, my irrational husband hatred doesn’t last forever. After four babies, I know enough to realize that it’s not really that I hate him, of course. It’s more about reconciling the fact that as parents, we now have completely different roles than when we first started as husband and wife.

It’s about learning the true definition of teamwork, in finding my own identity as a woman with capacities and skills that, feminism aside, can’t be equal to any man. I am the one that can give birth and provide nourishment and right now, I’m living a life at home with our kids and working in ways that he just can’t understand, through no fault of his own.

Someday, in the not-so-distant future, this life of babies and toddlers and potty training and sleep deprivation will morph again — and once again, I will have to reconcile my new role as a mother and as a wife.

But I’ve finally learned that what it really comes down to is letting go of the any resentment towards my husband for what he cannot do…
And instead, celebrating all that I can do.

Are You Spending Your Life Inside the Friend Zone?

No matter what you do—spending time with her, talking to her on the phone, making funny comments on her Facebook posts, buying her stuff—you just can’t seem to get her interested. So you tell her how you feel, how you really feel: the two of you should be together. And then she says it. “I think we’re really good just being friends.” You just found out—probably way too late for your own good—that you’ve been stuck in the friend zone. That’s not always an awful place to be, unless you happen to be totally in love with the lady who put you there. She probably thinks you’re a great guy, that is, for anyone else but her. Here are some ways to tell if she thinks the two of you are just friends before you share your feelings and embarrass yourself. 
She Needs Something Again
When she calls it’s usually not just to say hi, or to let you know about anything important that is going on in her life, and definitely not to ask about you. She usually calls when she needs a really big favor. Could you come with her to this party so she doesn’t have to go alone? That’s not a date. Can you drop her off at the airport, nobody else could do it? It’s not because she wants you to be the last person she sees before she leaves. You’re a good friend, so you’ll do these things, but that doesn’t mean you’re getting any closer to her by obliging.

She Treats You Like a Prop
Now this is the worst part. You get hugs in all the pictures you take. You get to carry her bags for her if you guys go shopping. She may even ask you to go out on dates with her. But that’s as close as you get to fulfilling the role of boyfriend.

She Never Gets Back to You
You’re always trying to get her attention so you keep in touch all the time. You call, you text, you comment on her posts on the internet. She never seems to get back to you that fast, especially when you call. If she ever does reply to your compliments it’s usually something like “Awww thanks!”—the kind of reply that is telling you she thinks you’re sweet and not sexy. If this is always happening, she may not have just put you in the friend zone, she may actively dislike how much you are trying to get a hold of her.
She Met This Great Guy
There is no clearer sign that you are not a romantic interest for her than if she talks to you about other guys she likes. No, she’s not trying to play games and make you jealous, she actively thinks other men are more attractive and sexual than you are. Stop. Here

Communication ........ Communication......Breakdown

Contributed by – Amy Waterman, a professional writer specializing in attraction and dating, most specifically marriage counseling and relationship guidance. Amy is also the co-author of “Save My Marriage Today”.  It happens to the best of us. Communication is such a fickle thing, and the lines of communication can become blurred every so often, especially when love and feelings are involved.
Even those who think that they are immune to the confusion of conflict, can find themselves drawn into a communication breakdown when they least expect it, and chaos ensues.
Even those of us who are better equipped than many others are not immune.
This happened to me on the weekend, and to be quite honest, it took me by surprise. My spouse told me something that really hurt my feelings, and I automatically lashed back in defense.
It was a silly argument, over something as simple as a misplaced bottle of perfume but to me, it represented something much deeper than had been simmering away for a couple of weeks. I get frustrated at having to search for something when it is not where I expect it to be, worse still when my partner has shifted it and I don’t know the first place to begin searching Perfume, needles and thread, car keys, a Tupperware container to store my baking soda in, covers for our outdoor chairs, all were examples of instances where I had to turn the house upside-down. A simple answer from my spouse when these things were shifted would have saved me a lot of time and frustration. And the answer I got? “You need to open your eyes and organize yourself better”.

I was gutted. When I come home from work I exercise the dog and cook dinner so that it is on the table by the time my partner gets home. The house is always spotless and warm, as I’m very conscious of coming home to a tidy environment.
I see this as a fundamental part of my role in coming home first, and it takes a lot of my time. To imply that I have the time to “organize yourself better” really hurt.
I don’t expect praise, but I did hope that my efforts were recognized. I got told that “I don’t expect you to cook my dinner every night.” That was interpreted by me as ingratitude, and hurt me even more.
So where to from here? My spouse felt guilty at coming home every night to the perfect household, where I felt guilty if it wasn’t perfect. It was never about me trying to make my spouse feel guilty, but it seems it did. And this is where the communication fell down. He misinterpreted my efforts, and I misinterpreted his response.
Communication, communication, communication.
I needed my partner to keep me informed of where things were moved to. I need to be informed. I need to voice my frustration before it gets to a boiling point. We both need to talk about our feelings more and how each of our contributions to our home and our relationship make us feel, and how we interpret each others contributions.
Just because something isn’t spoken about, doesn’t mean it’s not important. A relationship or marriage is not a competition, but for many couples it feels like it.

When people feel guilt or stress, it leads them to act in funny ways. Often stress and guilt are barriers to communication. The key to overcoming them is to recognize what it is, and have the courage to talk about it. You might be able to do it as a couple, or you might want the help of a friend who can listen to the way you are communicating with each other and offer insights and advice.

We got it sorted out, and kissed and hugged. It wouldn’t hurt so much if I didn’t feel such love at the same time. But it served as a good reminder to me. Sometimes you get so wrapped up in your own emotions that you forget to think of the other person. You also need to entertain the possibility that you are misinterpreting each other.
Talking about it is the way to expose the miscommunication and let the healing begin.
A good lesson to learn, even for the experts.
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