10 THINGS EVERY MATURE RELATIONSHIP PARTNER KNOWS

Maturity is a quality that’s often lacking in many relationship partners; men/women that are even advanced in age fall prey to immaturity most times without knowing and this leads to the demise of most relationships.
There are some basic things a mature relationship partner knows and adheres to and that’s why such a partner is always adored. With maturity the relationship would blossom and a lack of it would lead to frequent scenes of violence, abuse, hurts, quarrels and rapid misunderstanding. If you want to know what the mature relationship partner knows, get in here.
10 things every mature relationship partner knows  
1. RETALIATION WON’T SOLVE A THING
‘Oh, sweet revenge’ you might say, but that’s a major cause of relationship failures. If Miss A does something bad to her partner and he decides to retaliate, where do you think the relationship would go from then onwards? A mature relationship partner knows that retaliating on your partner would only lead to enmity and rivalry; maturity isn’t in retaliation, but maturity is in letting things lie sometimes.
2. ENVY KILLS
Many partners (females especially) are rocked by envy, greed and constant comparisons of another person’s relationship. Once you base your relationship on another person’s relationship and constantly compare your partner to that person then you have completely succeeded in ruining your relationship. A mature relationship partner knows that though some relationship might look all loving on the outside, it could be a different story within, so they don’t indulge in childish comparisons and envy.
3. HAVING A LISTENING EAR IS THE FIRST STEP TO UNDERSTANDING
You can never understand your partner if you don’t listen to your partner. You cannot build that much desired level of understanding in the relationship if you don’t listen; there is a difference between hearing your partner and listening to your partner.
4. WORDS COULD REALLY HURT
There are some things you can’t take back, and words are one of those things. You should always scrutinize what comes out of your mouth as they go a long way in determining the success and failure of that relationship. A mature partner avoids words that would hurt a partner because a broken/failed relationship starts with the feeling of hurt.
5. THERE IS NO COMPROMISE ABOUT BEING FAITHFUL
There is no excuse really for cheating on a partner; it shows betrayal of trust, betrayal of feelings and insincerity. The fun derived from being faithful cannot be compared to the negative seeds it would plant in that relationship. You can’t call yourself a mature partner if you always cheat on your partner —that’s betrayal of the highest level.
6. BERATING YOUR PARTNER KILLS THE RELATIONSHIP; NO COMPROMISE 
I wonder why a person would go into a relationship and decide to constantly abuse his/her partner with words; verbal abuse is almost as terrible as physical abuse, it affects the mind. You show maturity when you value your partner and you value your partner in actions and in words. There is no compromising this.
7. MAKE YOUR PARTNER HAPPY 
A mature partner knows that the best way to having a happy relationship is by making your partner happy. When your partner is happy, you would as well be happy, put a smile on your partner’s face and you would as well be happy. A mature partner knows this, while the immature partner keeps waiting for his/her partner to make them happy. It should start with you.
8. THE RELATIONSHIP SHOULDN’T ALWAYS BE ABOUT YOU     
The relationship should never be about you; when you make the relationship about you, it shows selfishness and self-centeredness. A mature relationship partner knows that for a relationship to work, he/she has to think of the partner just as much as he/she thinks of himself, or even more.
9. SOME ARGUMENTS AREN’T WORTH IT
The immature partner would always meddle in every argument in a relationship but a mature partner knows that not every argument is worth it. The mature partner spots when the relationship is taking a bad twist and understands that if continued, it could harm the relationship— so the mature partner ends such arguments and doesn’t give arguments the chance to end the relationship.
10. KEEPS THE PASSION BURNING
A successful relationship is a passionate relationship; once the passion in the relationship starts to die off, the relationship would as well start to die off gradually. A mature partner understands this and makes sure the passion is always rekindled in the relationship.

Yes, you might come up with the popular and typical lazy man’s excuse that ‘no human is perfect’; forgetting that to be the best in everything you ought to strive towards perfection. To be a mature relationship partner isn’t a day’s job, you work hard to becoming such a partner with each passing day, and you can actually be that mature relationship partner if you put your heart to it.

5 SCIENTIFIC REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD KISS

A kiss is a touch or caress with the lips as a sign of love, sexual desire, or greeting. Kissing isn’t just a sign of love and affection; it also has some amazing benefits too.
If you haven’t kissed your partner today, here are 5 scientific reasons why you should kiss them now
1. IT LOWERS YOUR STRESS LEVELS:
Are you going through a lot of stress? If the answer is yes, then you should kiss your partner more. Kissing helps lower your stress levels and there is proof too. According to researchers from the Arizona State University, 52 people didn’t only feel close to their partners, they were significantly less stressed based on a psychological stress scale after spending 6 weeks making kissing a priority in their everyday lives.
2. IT PREVENTS CAVITIES:
If you love your teeth and you want to lower your chances of tooth decay, then you should kiss as kissing increases saliva flow, which helps prevent tooth decay. According to the Academy of General Dentistry, when you kiss, the saliva flow helps to increase the tooth enamel and also washes the bacteria off your teeth, which in turn helps break down oral plaque.
3. IT HELPS REDUCE BLOOD PRESSURE:
If you are experiencing high blood pressure, then you ought to kiss more. According to research, when you kiss, it dilates your blood vessels and therefore helps reduce blood pressure. Why don’t you reduce your blood pressure today by kissing?
4. IT HELPS STRENGTHENS YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM:
If you want to strengthen your immune system, then you should kiss more. According to a study published in Physiology & Behavior, kissing helps improve your resistance to having an allergic reaction. Isn’t this a good reason to kiss?
5. IT HELPS BURN CALORIES
If you need to burn some calories, then you should consider kissing your partner more. According to research, you burn between 2 to 5 calories every minute you spend kissing. So if you kiss for 30 minutes, you could burn up to 150 calories.
So if you thought kissing is all about getting ready for sex, then you are so wrong. Kissing also has some health benefits too. Why don’t you reap these benefits by kissing today?

THE CRAZY THINGS LOVE MAKES YOU DO

Most of us (maybe all of us) have been in this situation before where we did crazy things in the name of love.
Toke Makinwa talks about this issue and it’s a must watch for everyone who has ever fallen in love

10 THINGS EVERY MATURE RELATIONSHIP PARTNER KNOWS

Maturity is a quality that’s often lacking in many relationship partners; men/women that are even advanced in age fall prey to immaturity most times without knowing and this leads to the demise of most relationships.
There are some basic things a mature relationship partner knows and adheres to and that’s why such a partner is always adored. With maturity the relationship would blossom and a lack of it would lead to frequent scenes of violence, abuse, hurts, quarrels and rapid misunderstanding. If you want to know what the mature relationship partner knows, get in here.
10 things every mature relationship partner knows  
1. RETALIATION WON’T SOLVE A THING
‘Oh, sweet revenge’ you might say, but that’s a major cause of relationship failures. If Miss A does something bad to her partner and he decides to retaliate, where do you think the relationship would go from then onwards? A mature relationship partner knows that retaliating on your partner would only lead to enmity and rivalry; maturity isn’t in retaliation, but maturity is in letting things lie sometimes.
2. ENVY KILLS
Many partners (females especially) are rocked by envy, greed and constant comparisons of another person’s relationship. Once you base your relationship on another person’s relationship and constantly compare your partner to that person then you have completely succeeded in ruining your relationship. A mature relationship partner knows that though some relationship might look all loving on the outside, it could be a different story within, so they don’t indulge in childish comparisons and envy.
3. HAVING A LISTENING EAR IS THE FIRST STEP TO UNDERSTANDING
You can never understand your partner if you don’t listen to your partner. You cannot build that much desired level of understanding in the relationship if you don’t listen; there is a difference between hearing your partner and listening to your partner.
4. WORDS COULD REALLY HURT
There are some things you can’t take back, and words are one of those things. You should always scrutinize what comes out of your mouth as they go a long way in determining the success and failure of that relationship. A mature partner avoids words that would hurt a partner because a broken/failed relationship starts with the feeling of hurt

5. THERE IS NO COMPROMISE ABOUT BEING FAITHFUL
There is no excuse really for cheating on a partner; it shows betrayal of trust, betrayal of feelings and insincerity. The fun derived from being faithful cannot be compared to the negative seeds it would plant in that relationship. You can’t call yourself a mature partner if you always cheat on your partner —that’s betrayal of the highest level.
6. BERATING YOUR PARTNER KILLS THE RELATIONSHIP; NO COMPROMISE 
I wonder why a person would go into a relationship and decide to constantly abuse his/her partner with words; verbal abuse is almost as terrible as physical abuse, it affects the mind. You show maturity when you value your partner and you value your partner in actions and in words. There is no compromising this.
7. MAKE YOUR PARTNER HAPPY
A mature partner knows that the best way to having a happy relationship is by making your partner happy. When your partner is happy, you would as well be happy, put a smile on your partner’s face and you would as well be happy. A mature partner knows this, while the immature partner keeps waiting for his/her partner to make them happy. It should start with you.

8. THE RELATIONSHIP SHOULDN’T ALWAYS BE ABOUT YOU     
The relationship should never be about you; when you make the relationship about you, it shows selfishness and self-centeredness. A mature relationship partner knows that for a relationship to work, he/she has to think of the partner just as much as he/she thinks of himself, or even more.
9. SOME ARGUMENTS AREN’T WORTH IT
The immature partner would always meddle in every argument in a relationship but a mature partner knows that not every argument is worth it. The mature partner spots when the relationship is taking a bad twist and understands that if continued, it could harm the relationship— so the mature partner ends such arguments and doesn’t give arguments the chance to end the relationship.
10. KEEPS THE PASSION BURNING
A successful relationship is a passionate relationship; once the passion in the relationship starts to die off, the relationship would as well start to die off gradually. A mature partner understands this and makes sure the passion is always rekindled in the relationship.

Yes, you might come up with the popular and typical lazy man’s excuse that ‘no human is perfect’; forgetting that to be the best in everything you ought to strive towards perfection. To be a mature relationship partner isn’t a day’s job, you work hard to becoming such a partner with each passing day, and you can actually be that mature relationship partner if you put your heart to it

WHAT WOULD YOU CALL YOUR DREAM RELATIONSHIP?

People have their dream cars, dream house, dream jobs and so many other things they dream of but not many times have we heard of a dream relationship.
Today is another segment of our Elcrema Sunday Love special which holds every two Sundays; a segment dedicated strictly to discussions about relationships as it affects everyone.
Today’s topic is slightly different as we have to search within our soul to provide an answer to this question.
I would be handling this with Drama; we would both share our views on what our dream relationship is—we would be delighted to know yours too.
First let’s read what Drama sees as a dream relationship

Drama
Everyone has a dream relationship. You know, that relationship you wanna have; your ideal relationship. Here’s mine…For starters, If I’m gonna be in a relationship with you must be decent-looking. I’m not saying you have to be as pretty as one of those Victoria’s secret models, but you must be good-looking, reason being that I wanna be able to introduce you to people, and be proud while at it. Again, you must be smart. I don’t wanna be in a relationship with a woman who cannot add value to me mentally. You must be mentally strong, and willing to assist me with some of the challenges I may face.

I wanna be in a relationship with a woman who breathes decorum. She knows how to talk to her man, and people around her. I want a relationship where there’s full understanding between myself and the woman because in the absence of it, there’s confusion, endless quarrelling. I want a relationship where there’s unbroken communication, where I’m able to pass my emotions across to her without any restrictions. A relationship devoid of nagging, cheating, deception, and disrespect.
In other words, my dream relationship is a ‘perfect relationship’. And of course, I know we don’t always get what we want, but one can only dream. Lol

Shawn
I think we are in an era where many people have gotten their dream cars and houses but haven’t even got a taste of their dream relationship; in fact many have settled for a relationship where they can just endure because all hopes of having a dream relationship has been dashed away.
Back to the subject, my dream relationship isn’t delusional or living in the romance novels, the first thing that strikes me as a dream relationship is a relationship where understanding would thrive. Forget all the fanfare and public display of affection, if there is no understanding in that relationship then there is nothing to dream about such a relationship; in short, a lack of understanding would mean a catastrophic relationship.

Understanding to me is a relationship essential, through understanding you can build so many other things in the relationship and it wouldn’t just be a dream relationship to only you, others would even model their relationship after yours. Understanding is the secret of every successful relationship.
A dream relationship isn’t a relationship where I would just find a partner, it’s a relationship where I’d find love and in that love I’d find friendship, passion and a commitment to each other. All these traits would grow and blossom after understanding has been built in that relationship.
My dream relationship doesn’t have to appeal to the world; it’s my business and not the world’s business; as far as I find love and happiness in that relationship then that’s my dream relationship

Relationship Advice for Women – From a Woman

Take it from someone who’s been in quite a few disastrous relationshipsand very few good ones: relationship advice for women is usually horrible and you shouldn’t listen to it.

Advice columns and articles written by men, regarding relationship advice for women, are obviously a bit biased. The same articles and advisories written by women can be just as biased, however. Both sides tend to miss important pieces of relationship advice for women: if the relationship isn’t working and you’re unhappy, it’s time to leave.

This is the best relationship advice for girls and guys alike: do what makes you happy.

One of the biggest mistakes that I’ve seen women make in relationships, and I admit I’ve even done it myself, is staying in a relationship because you want your significant other to be happy and you don’t want to hurt them.

Staying in a relationship for the happiness of someone other than you is silly. I know it may sound like I’m telling you to be selfish, and I am. But in the long run, if you stay in a relationship because only one of you is happy, both of you will end up miserable in the future. It may be a few months or several years, but it will happen. Do you really want to wait that long to realize that a relationship isn’t working?

Here’s a no-brainer. If you are unhappy in a relationship and have tried remedying things but you’re still not satisfied, it’s time to go. Caring for someone and loving someone are two different things that often conflict. But if only one of you is giving out all the love, and the other is just caring enough to get by, it’s time to realize that not every relationship is worth saving.

Many women miss important advice like this. Relationship advice for women is often a bunch of things you can do to try and save a relationship, but that’s not always what needs to be done.

Doing what makes you happy is truly the best relationship advice for women (and men as well) but most people don’t realize when they aren’t truly happy.

If you are questioning the amount of love that either you or your significant other is putting into the relationship, or if you aren’t sure whether a relationship is making you happy or not, you should ask yourself some important questions. Coping, settling, and tolerating does not equal happiness.

Have you settled on someone who doesn’t deserve you? Do they appreciate everything that defines who you are? Do they love you for you, or for what they want you to be? Does the purest form of your personality come out when you’re around them? Does making them happy, make you happy? Do you feel smothered or controlled? Does it make you angry? Does your significant other make you angry a lot? How much of their behavior do you hate and just tolerate? Have you turned to alcohol or drugs in order to cope with the stress from your relationship? Have you had more days of feeling depressed since you’ve been with them?

Ask yourself these questions and come up with a few on your own, then tell yourself if you are happy or not. Be honest with yourself.

When all other relationship advice for women fails, it’s time to start answering some important questions. If you can find out just how happy, or just how miserable, your relationship makes you, you’ll know what to do. Follow your heart, your soul, or just your common sense. Any way you look at it, your happiness with someone defines how successful the relationship is, and that’s the best relationship advice for women, men, and creatures of all shapes, sizes and colors.

HOW TO ESCAPE THE FRIEND ZONE WITH A GIRLFRIEND

There is a myth that men and women can be friends, but sometimes being friends is exactly what you don’t want. It’s nice to have a few friends who are girls, but what should you do if your feelings suddenly change? What should a guy do when he wants his friend to be his girlfriend? It’s a tricky situation, but JDNEWS24.BLOG can help you escape the friend zone.

Know What You’re Getting Into is going to transform you from a platonic friend into a romantic partner. In a lot of ways trying to become more than friends is going to affect your friendship, so it’s important to be sure that this is exactly what you want. There’s always a risk that trying to turn a friendship into a romance will result in losing your friend. This is a total fail state as you wind up without a girlfriend and without your pal. That is why it’s so important to be sure you really want to turn this friend into a girlfriend. Now start seeing if she wants you to be her boyfriend…

You Can Start By Acting the Part and see how she reacts. Start calling her more often, even if it’s just to say hi. You’re going to want to be more of a presence in her life than you were before. Also, try to make plans to hang out more often. Ask her to do more favors for you, to see how willing she is to devote her time to you. If this all goes well, it means you’re moving in the right direction.

Eye Contact is a direct way of making a connection with a person. The more easily you meet and maintain eye contact with her, the more she will feel like you are communicating to her about something more intimate than just being friends.

Touching is a big part of decreasing the space between the two of you. This may be your best way to gauge how she is feeling about your advances. If she responds negatively to any increased intimacy you should probably take it as a clear message that she is not interested in you as a lover. That’s okay. But if she responds well–if she punches you back when you are horsing around, if she reaches back to you when you put your arm around her–you are probably ready to take the next step.

Telling Her How You Feel may seem like the obvious thing to do from the very beginning–and really it may be what your heart is telling you to do–but it’s a better idea for you wait on doing this. This step is last on this list because you should only proceed with telling her how you feel if you think she could be reciprocal, for example, if she responds well to all of the other things on this list. If you rush right into this step, you risk freaking her out and not only closing the door on any romantic possibilities, but making her feel betrayed in your friendship. This step is last because you should already have tested how receptive she is to the idea before you actually put it out there. Once you do all of the above first, and only then, should you open up to her about how you feel.

If you need more tips on how to turn a friend into a girlfriend, or if you are interested in other top dating tips for men, you should check out the #1 dating guide for men

The First Thing You Must Do in B3d

Generosity for the win: Focusing on what she craves in the sack also increases your arousal, says new
research in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science.

Researchers studied “s3xual communal strength”—the willingness to meet a partner’s s3xual needs—in long-term couples. Both parties filled out daily s3x surveys for 3 weeks. Four months later, generous lovers  reported higher levels of daily arousal AND more desire for their partner than the less-generous couples.

"There's a lot of research out there that suggests giving to others is good for the self," says lead study author Amy Muise, Ph.D., of the University of Toronto, and that effect is even stronger with a romantic partner. Plus, Muise says, knowing you can satisfy your partner's needs is a major confidence booster.

But zeroing in on her desires at the exclusion of your own won't deliver the same outcome, says Muise. The solution: Aim for compromise. If you usually perform oral s3x on her because she loves to incorporate it into foreplay, see if she's up for something you want, like shower s3x or a morning quickie before work. That way you'll both feel accounted for, Muise says