7 NON-SEX TIPS THAT WOULD MAKE YOU A BETTER LOVER (FOR MEN)

Everyone that’s in a relationship wants to be a better lover, but who really is a better lover and why is it so important to be a better lover? A quick look at the dictionary describes a lover as a person in love, but we all know that being in love doesn’t actually mean you are a good lover; so that means there is a good and a bad lover.

Think of some relationships that you have been in or even your present relationship; when you think of some of your partners, you feel so agitated and still when you remember some, a quick smile lights up your face.

The big question is: who is a good lover and how can one be a better lover?

A good lover is that partner that leaves smiles on the face of their partner.

1. UNDERSTANDING

Shouting on the top of your voices, raising the roof and throwing insults at the slightest provocation would never make you a better lover. To be a better lover, building understanding in your relationship is highly important and you can never build understanding in your relationship if you don’t understand your partner. This can be achieved by avoiding that temptation to act on impulse at the slightest provocation.

2. LISTENING

The ability to listen is one that’s always being emphasized upon and rarely adhered to. Every lady loves that man that can listen to her; listening is the first step to communication; when you listen to her then you would understand her better. You can’t build understanding in your relationship when you don’t listen. A lady’s voice needs to be heard too.

3. DATES ARE NEVER A CLICHE

Taking your lady out on dates would always make her feel special; it shows you care about her, it shows you care about the relationship and it would as well build the bond in the relationship. Going on dates add a special and different feeling to a relationship and every man should know this.

4. BE ROMANTIC 

Have you ever thought of why every lady loves a man that’s romantic man? Ladies are drawn to a man that can awe them and a romantic man would always do that. Never wait for a birthday, event or anniversary to spring up a surprise; never wait till your relationship is going down the hill before you do something extra. The best tip to being a more romantic partner is living every day like it was your first—the reason is, when a man meets a lady for the first time, he’s ready to do everything to show that he cares; that mentality should never be lost.

5. DON’T BE TOO ARROGANT TO SHOW YOUR FEELINGS

Most women see men as being stonehearted that it’s now a cliche. Being confident is a good thing but I doubt the significance of being arrogant. If you really care about your lady then don’t be too hard hearted to show it; show her you love her through your words and in your actions.

6. DON’T JUST BE A LOVER, BE HER FRIEND

A relationship is more fun and enjoyable when partners aren’t just lovers but friends; if you can’t be friends with her then you can’t be a better lover. A relationship is boring when there is no fun, no play and no jokes—that’s a rigid relationship. Being friends with her might mean you’d have to put up with a bit more feminine things but it doesn’t matter—be her friend and then be her, and you would definitely be a better lover.

7. COMPLIMENT HER

Complimenting your lady shows that you appreciate her and every lady loves to be appreciated. Every man loves it when her man sees her as beautiful, as an angel and the best woman he could ask for. Complimenting your lady is never ordinary; it’s the key to always putting a smile on her face.

Being a better lover doesn’t always have to be in the sheets; if you don’t know, the non-sexual part of a relationship affects even the sexual part of a relationship. Be the better man, be the better lover.

DO YOU KNOW THAT MEN ARE MORE EMOTIONAL THAN WOMEN?

Women have this belief that men are less emotional, stone hearted and rarely feel anything, but science has made me think otherwise.

According to a 2013 study carried out by neurologists at Mindlab, men are actually more sensitive than women when it comes to all sorts of emotional stimuli – they are just better at hiding it.

Scientists asked two groups of volunteers, 15 fathers and 15 mothers, to watch a series of videos while their physiological responses were measured by skin conductance electrodes.

The content was categorised into four topics: blissful, funny, exciting and heart-warming. The results were unexpected and left experts surprised that men displayed marginally stronger reactions on average to all of the first three.

The heart-warming category was even more shocking as experiment showed that men actually responded twice as much to this content than women.

Neuropsychologist Dr David Lewis, the director of Mindlab and a former lecturer at the University of Sussex, said: “Gender stereotypes about men being stoic and women being emotional are reinforced by our day to day consumption of media and our social interactions.

“We tend to oversimplify and exaggerate the perceived differences between men and women and are more likely to focus on evidence that supports our existing gender stereotypes.”

“This study suggests that men feel emotion just as much as women, sometimes more strongly, but are less willing to express these emotions openly due to expectations put on them by society.”

However, after taking part in the research, the women still agreed to being more emotional than men despite all psychological indications leading to the contrary.

So ladies, don’t be deceived by the hardness of men—this study shows that men are emotional