6 SIGNS YOUR MAN IS PROBABLY FAITHFUL

One prayer every lady keeps praying is for her to have a faithful man. A faithful man is like a rare gem, he’s one in a thousand.
Men are naturally promiscuous and having a man that’s faithful to you is definitely a big plus. One big question ladies ask is: how do I know my man is faithful? Faithfulness or cheating is not written on a man’s face but a lady can probably tell her man isn’t having a sexual affair with someone else.
These signs aren’t a surety but they are definite guides that would show you your man is faithful.
1. HAS NOTHING TO HIDE
The faithful man has nothing to hide; he isn’t sneaky about his phones and every other thing. A man that cheats is never hundred percent free with his phone; a call or message could pop at any time and he wouldn’t want to be caught up in that; but the man that’s faithful doesn’t have anything to hide, secrecy isn’t in his diary and he makes sure his lady knows this.
2. LOYALTY
Where does your man’s loyalty lie is one question every lady should ask herself when in a relationship. A man that’s loyal to his lady would rather not be anywhere but with his lady, when he has a spare time he spends it with his lady. A man that’s loyal wouldn’t mind showing you to the world as his lady; when he treats you like the only woman in the world then that’s a sign of loyalty; a man shows loyalty to his lady not just in words but in actions.
3. COMMITMENT LEVEL 
One thing you might want to ask yourself is how committed is your man to the relationship. How much passion does he put into that relationship? How much does he try extra just to be with you and to please you? Gauge his seriousness in that relationship from a scale of 1 to 10; anything less than 10 shows that there is one percent chance that he’s cheating. You might think it’s a harsh judgment but it isn’t; faithfulness needs a hundred percent loyalty or commitment level and there could be that one percent chance that your man is cheating if he falls short on being loyal and committed to that relationship.
4. NO FLIRT ZONE
The man that’s faithful to his lady avoids cheating on her by all means and by that he doesn’t even try to be flirty in his actions; he doesn’t really feel the need to impress other ladies, he isn’t carried away by the appeal of other women. This is so because the faithful man has all his desire placed in just one person and anything that falls short of this could mean your man is getting some extra booty somewhere.
5. HONESTY
There is nothing like a man that’s honest and upright in his words and actions; that’s the quality of a man that’s faithful. Once deceit enters the picture or when there is a thing or two to hide then you should know that there is a little problem. Faithfulness isn’t a regular trait, it is extraordinary and it requires a whole lot of honesty. A faithful man is an honest man; once he’s told you that little lie then anything can happen from then on but if he has no reason to lie then that’s the faithful man.
6. RESPECT FOR YOU
A man that would hit you has no respect for you and that means he could cheat on you as well; a man that would tell you all manner of lies has no respect for you and could as well cheat on you; a man that doesn’t value you or your feelings or make no efforts to understand you doesn’t have respect for you and that means he could as well cheat on you. However, a man that has total respect for his lady and also respect her feelings would give no room to cheat on her because he’s too in love or cares about the way his lady feels to do that.

After all said and done, faithfulness requires a whole lot of discipline and commitment from a man, and while it isn’t easy to hundred percent vouch for the faithfulness of a man, these tips can provide an insight to how faithful or unfaithful your man is.

HOW READY ARE YOU FOR A RELATIONSHIP? 9 SIGNS YOU AREN’T READY

People jump into relationships without knowing if they are ready to have a relationship or not. The term ‘relationship’ just seems to be a good idea that people buy into without grasping that the actual relationship goes beyond those four words ‘I’m in a relationship’.
If you aren’t ready for a relationship and you actually venture into one, it would never work out well and it could end up being a nightmare.
You might be wondering how one cannot be ready for a relationship or how to know if you are not ready for a relationship. Being ready for a relationship isn’t just about your feelings and emotions leading you to a relationship; it doesn’t end there, it starts with your feelings for a relationship partner and continues with your maturity or emotional preparedness to actually have that relationship.
9 signs you aren’t ready for a relationship:
1. SELF
Me, I, myself shows just one person —you, and it shows you aren’t ready for a relationship. A relationship should never be just about you; you should treat your partner just as you treat yourself, but when you think only of yourself and yourself alone then it shows you aren’t ready for a relationship.
2. YOU HOLD BACK A LOT
You can’t hold back a lot from your partner and still call it a relationship. Some people hold back their emotions and their feelings and prefer to ply the safe option. There is no safe option as regards this —life itself is a risk and relationship is as well risky—if you hold back a lot then you are going to lose a lot in that relationship.
3. YOU ARE NOT READY TO MAKE SACRIFICES
If you are ready for a relationship then you should be ready to make sacrifices and anything short of that shows you aren’t ready for a relationship. A true relationship is about love and sacrifice and if this isn’t yet in your mind-set then you aren’t prepared to have a relationship.
4. YOU STILL CLING TO YOUR EX
If you still can’t let go of your ex then you aren’t ready for a relationship. When you still think of your ex then it shows you are not emotionally prepared to have a new partner. Every relationship needs that emotional balance that can make you can make you forgo almost every other thing and just set your mind on your partner; but if your emotions aren’t set right then that could be a problem.
5. WHEN YOU STILL CAN’T STOP CHEATING
Faithfulness should be the pride of relationship partners; it shows content, value, maturity, self-control and it also shows that you’re ready for a relationship. Faithfulness shows that you respect your partner and your partner’s feelings and wouldn’t do anything to hurt that person’s feeling. However, unfaithfulness shows you aren’t mentally and physically ready for a relationship.
6. WHEN YOU HAVE NO SELF-CONTROL
Self-control depicts maturity and maturity is needed in every relationship. So many men have turned the women in their lives to punching bags—that doesn’t show self-control. Some people get angry at the slightest provocation—that doesn’t show self-control. If you can’t control yourself in that relationship then you would lose control of that relationship. Lack of self-control shows that you are far from ready to be in a relationship.
7. WHEN YOU AREN’T ACCOMMODATING        
Surprisingly, this trait of not being accommodating is found in relationships. This points back to the first tip of self; when you are self-minded, you won’t be accommodating even to your partner. When you can’t tolerate some of your partner’s behaviour that shouldn’t really cause a problem then it shows you are not accommodating.
8. WHEN YOU AREN’T READY TO LEARN
A relationship is a learning process; no one is a professor in relationships; even the relationship experts have hitches in their relationship, and this point to one thing—a relationship is a school you never graduate from, you just keep learning and if you aren’t ready to learn then you aren’t ready to be in a relationship.
9. WHEN YOU ALWAYS WANT TO BE ALONE
Everyone needs that sober time sometimes where you can be alone and ponder about life and a whole lot of things—it helps. However, that’s totally different from when you always want to be alone. Being alone means you want to be single because being in a relationship means you have to accept some other person that isn’t you into your life totally. If you can’t do this then you aren’t ready for a relationship.

Movies and novels have somehow painted that picture perfect idea of a relationship in our minds and sometimes we tend to lose sight of the real picture. Wanting to be in a relationship and being ready to have a relationship are two different things. Work on yourself, work on your flaws and be ready to accept another person into your life with the person’s flaws and having that patience and accommodating spirit is what a relationship is all about.

4 TRUTHS YOU ONLY REALISE IN MARRIAGE

The single life can be very interesting and fun because you have no responsibilities or obligations to anyone except yourself. You get to live as freely as you choose to, but it can be misleading as well. You tend to take too many things for granted and make mistakes that could destroy you on the long run. We ignore some of the harsh realities of life because it seems ‘cool’ to, and sometimes, only come to our senses when it’s too late or find ourselves in situations where it’s difficult to adapt. Marriage is one of those situations. It’s a whole different entity and often opens our eyes to some of the realities about life. Sometimes, we’re lucky enough to earn a clean slate, and other times, we’re not. So what are these realities we tend to only learn in marriage?
EVERY PENNY COUNTS
As a single person, you have no real responsibilities per se because they’re usually very limited. No wife or children to feed, no kids to train at school, so you tend to spend money a little recklessly sometimes. But marriage is a whole different ball game. You have responsibilities cropping up every now and then, so reckless spending cannot be entertained—otherwise, you suffer the repercussions. In marriage, spending is calculated; even $1.00 can go a long way.
IT DOESN’T HURT TO SAVE
Saving is very important because it helps you prepare for tomorrow. Sadly, not a lot of single people realise this; in fact, I can count the number of single people I know who value saving. The future is an uncertainty; we make projections, but never know how things will really pan out. But when you save, you have something to fall back on in case things take a wrong turn. Imagine a married couple who do not save (especially, if they have kids). What happens when a sudden death befalls the father of the house? How does the family survive until things get back on track? How do bills get settled?…etc
BEAUTY ISN’T THE ULTIMATE FACTOR IN CHOOSING A PARTNER
If you’re choosing a partner for a serious affair like marriage, you must look beyond outer appearances because on the long run, they’ll fade, and your relationship might suffer. You need someone who’s committed to making your marriage work; someone who not only has a beautiful face or body, but has a beautiful mind as well; someone whom you can plan with, someone who understands you and is willing to listen and make compromises. If you’re a woman, your man must be driven and hardworking; pretty looks don’t pay bills. And as a man, your woman must be respectful, strong, supportive, of a sound mind and willing to listen.
CHILDREN ARE A BLESSING
Children are a blessing. A lot of people do not know this until they get married. That is the reason you see some unmarried couples aborting babies. I’ve seen people who spent a larger part of their lives aborting ‘unwanted babies’, only to get married and find it difficult to conceive. Married or not, children shouldn’t be aborted for any reason. If you do not have the means to take care of a baby, do not bring them into the world—wait till you’re ready. If your reject a child today because you ‘do not need it’, you may not find it when you do tomorrow.