A relationship is one of those major life decisions that if made hastily, it could haunt you.
One huge mistake in choosing a relationship partner is that people mostly look out for what mere wants rather than what a successful relationship really needs. Setting the wrong priorities when choosing that partner is the measure of a failed relationship because such a relationship has already been set to fail right from the onset.
When you set the right values in choosing a relationship partner, solidity would be the base of that relationship but if otherwise that relationship could just become as fragile as an egg.
5 things you shouldn’t make your priority when choosing that relationship partner
1. SEX APPEAL
Okay, I once heard a man say he would only get married to a girl that has big butts and big boobs—that’s sex appeal; he’s only attracted to women with big butts and boobs. You can’t blame him for those attractions since everyone has what appeals to them but making it a top priority is a whole new low and a disastrous one at that. If the wobbles that come with marriage surfaces then even that big butt and boobs wouldn’t be attractive to you anymore. A successful relationship/marriage is way bigger than sex appeal and any that’s based solely on sex appeal has already been built to fall.
2. LOOKS
He must be tall, handsome, huge, must have a charming smile, neatly arranged eye brows, cute dark eyes and the rest of it. She must be very beautiful with a figure 8 shape, shiny dark hair, charming eyes, angelic smile, cute lips and the rest of it. If it were a car, you would have the best car that would be well suited to you since it can be custom made—designed specifically to your requirements. However, looks go a little way in defining a successful relationship. If you want to define your partner like a custom made-car then you just might be heading to a ditch—looks are great but can be deceitful, some things are way more important than looks.
3. AVAILABILITY
Okay, I’ve been single for a very long time, all my friends are getting married, I’m getting older—maybe I should just pick anybody that comes my way. Unfortunately, this happens a lot, but when did ‘anybody’ become good for somebody. Entering that relationship with just anybody won’t guarantee you happiness. Sometimes being single might not be an appealing option but getting married to the wrong person is an even worse option.
4. CLASS
I love him/her but she isn’t in my class; I need a man/woman that’s classy—class is also another common priority that is regularly associated with marriage and relationship. The contradictory part of it is people actually do fall in love with someone but due to family pressure or peer pressure end such relationships just to pursue class. Your marriage/relationship might look classy to the public eye but if there is no happiness in it then there is totally no class in it.
5. WEALTH
Inasmuch as almost everything in the world is run on money and a relationship when there is money looks more appealing, money shouldn’t really be the top priority when choosing that relationship partner. A relationship isn’t a business, it isn’t a career, it isn’t a profession and wealth shouldn’t be the major reason for choosing a partner. I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t choose a relationship partner that is wealthy, I’m only pointing out that it shouldn’t be the top priority. Besides, a man who isn’t wealthy today might be wealthy tomorrow; so does that mean he wasn’t good enough yesterday but became good enough today? Choose a partner you love and you are happy with and build success and wealth with that person.
We sometimes get carried away with the superfluous external appeal of a person forgetting that a successful relationship has more to do with the internal than the external, so placing more importance on the external than the internal means you are placing top priority on what’s not so important than what’s so important.
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