Drama and I (Shawn) are going to bare our minds on this topic, and as usual, your thoughts are highly important.
First, let’s read what Drama has to say
Drama
Good day guys. How have you all been? As always, its a pleasure to be here, and discuss another important subject. Now, can a relationship survive if the man is broke? I think it can, but for this to be, he must be with the right woman, and the relationship must be built on what I call, ‘the 3 cardinals of a successful relationships’. They are; love, absolute trust, and understanding. If these are in place, there is no stopping a relationship from being successful, no matter what challenge it faces…even if the man goes broke. Let me throw some light on these 3 cardinals.
LOVE
When two people who truly want to be together are in a relationship, the relationship tends to stand the test of time, but when you enter a relationship because you hope to gain financially or otherwise, the moment the money stops flowing in, trouble sets in. This is The reason it is essentially vital that people go into a relationship only with people they love genuinely. One way of knowing if the love is real is when it’s selfless.
ABSOLUTE TRUST
Trust in a relationship is not achieved overnight; it is built over a period of time. In other words, for your partner to trust you fully, you must have proven to her that you’re deserving of it. How can you achieve this?—by being honest and open about yourself and your finances from the very beginning of the relationship. This comes in useful at hard times because one of the reasons most women quit a relationship the moment their man stops standing up to his financial responsibilities isn’t because they do not love the man, but because they have a hard time believing the man is actually broke. In fact, some women think the man is just being stingy, but when the trust has been established, you find that the woman in love sticks around by her man and helps him back to his feet.
UNDERSTANDING
Understanding in a relationship is just as important as love; it is a necessary ingredient that helps preserve a relationship. Sometimes, two people can be in love, and still have problems because they do not understand themselves. Understanding in a relationship is the same as knowing that in a relationship challenges will arise; finances will dry up, physical beauty will fade, your partner isn’t perfect, and choosing to remain in a relationship with him/ her. When a man dates a woman who possesses this quality, an empty pocket cannot make him single again. This is why it is very vital that people are more careful in choosing relationship partners.
Finally, I want to enjoin more women to be understanding and supportive of the men; look beyond the present and know that every situation is salvageable. That he’s broke today doesn’t mean he will be broke tomorrow; all he needs is your support and love to get through the trying times. And to those women who have stuck it out with their man through the difficult times, you are all wonderful! Men, work hard to retain your dignity and place in your relationships by assuming your responsibilities as a man. Women know times get rough; they just need to see you making an effort.
Shawn
Many ladies would tell you that dating a broke guy can be frustrating and to an extent I agree with them, but can a relationship survive if the man is broke? This to me isn’t a question that should be given a yes or no answer; basically a relationship should be able to survive as far as love exists in the relationship but in the real world, sometimes love isn’t just enough, not all ladies would enjoy a relationship where their man can’t afford some vital things.
They say diamonds are a lady’s best friend, rose would charm her heart and a date would show that you really care; but what if a man can’t afford all these but still loves his lady, would the relationship survive? To be honest, it hardly would.
Inasmuch as we try to say material things doesn’t matter in relationships, deep down we know it really does matter. Picture a man without a car, without the clothes, without money and without a job, would he still be attractive enough to his lady? I really doubt that.
Ladies want a man that can spoil them inasmuch as he loves them, meaning even though love is the vital factor here, it isn’t the only factor. So if a man can love them 100 percent but can’t afford to give her a treat on her birthday or he can’t afford to take her on a dinner date or can’t afford to give her a surprise gift, the relationship would barely be able to survive if something doesn’t happen to that man’s account fast.
Friends somehow have an impact on the lady’s thinking; if her friends are involved fancy or high profile relationships then it could have an effect on her mentality or they can even pressure her into dating someone more fancied.
Also, it doesn’t only end on the part of the lady; most times men that can’t afford to give their ladies such treats usually have low self-esteem and this can kill the relationship. A man who really isn’t in charge (so to speak) of the relationship would find it difficult to stay in a relationship where he can’t maintain a certain tempo.
Now back to the question; can a relationship survive if the man is broke? Yes, it can actually survive if both partners work hard to keep the relationship going, but more often than not this isn’t always the case.
That’s our take on this issue; do you think a relationship can survive if the man is broke?
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