4 TRUTHS YOU ONLY REALISE IN MARRIAGE

The single life can be very interesting and fun because you have no responsibilities or obligations to anyone except yourself. You get to live as freely as you choose to, but it can be misleading as well. You tend to take too many things for granted and make mistakes that could destroy you on the long run. We ignore some of the harsh realities of life because it seems ‘cool’ to, and sometimes, only come to our senses when it’s too late or find ourselves in situations where it’s difficult to adapt. Marriage is one of those situations. It’s a whole different entity and often opens our eyes to some of the realities about life. Sometimes, we’re lucky enough to earn a clean slate, and other times, we’re not. So what are these realities we tend to only learn in marriage?
EVERY PENNY COUNTS
As a single person, you have no real responsibilities per se because they’re usually very limited. No wife or children to feed, no kids to train at school, so you tend to spend money a little recklessly sometimes. But marriage is a whole different ball game. You have responsibilities cropping up every now and then, so reckless spending cannot be entertained—otherwise, you suffer the repercussions. In marriage, spending is calculated; even $1.00 can go a long way.
IT DOESN’T HURT TO SAVE
Saving is very important because it helps you prepare for tomorrow. Sadly, not a lot of single people realise this; in fact, I can count the number of single people I know who value saving. The future is an uncertainty; we make projections, but never know how things will really pan out. But when you save, you have something to fall back on in case things take a wrong turn. Imagine a married couple who do not save (especially, if they have kids). What happens when a sudden death befalls the father of the house? How does the family survive until things get back on track? How do bills get settled?…etc
BEAUTY ISN’T THE ULTIMATE FACTOR IN CHOOSING A PARTNER
If you’re choosing a partner for a serious affair like marriage, you must look beyond outer appearances because on the long run, they’ll fade, and your relationship might suffer. You need someone who’s committed to making your marriage work; someone who not only has a beautiful face or body, but has a beautiful mind as well; someone whom you can plan with, someone who understands you and is willing to listen and make compromises. If you’re a woman, your man must be driven and hardworking; pretty looks don’t pay bills. And as a man, your woman must be respectful, strong, supportive, of a sound mind and willing to listen.
CHILDREN ARE A BLESSING
Children are a blessing. A lot of people do not know this until they get married. That is the reason you see some unmarried couples aborting babies. I’ve seen people who spent a larger part of their lives aborting ‘unwanted babies’, only to get married and find it difficult to conceive. Married or not, children shouldn’t be aborted for any reason. If you do not have the means to take care of a baby, do not bring them into the world—wait till you’re ready. If your reject a child today because you ‘do not need it’, you may not find it when you do tomorrow.